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Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where your needs always seem to come second? Or maybe you’ve wondered why some women, especially neurodivergent ones, end up in toxic relationships time and time again. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a colleague, or even a family member, understanding how narcissists operate can help you protect yourself and reclaim your sense of self-worth. 

This episode tackles those difficult questions with compassion and clarity, exploring the hidden patterns that keep us stuck and how to break free.

Timestamps (approx):

2 mins: The trap of love bombing: why it feels so good at first and how it keeps you stuck in a toxic cycle.

4 mins: How childhood experiences with narcissistic parents or caregivers shape the relationships we seek as adults.

8 mins: Spotting manipulation tactics like blame-shifting, emotional hot potato, and gaslighting - and how to protect yourself.

12 mins: Steps to break the cycle: creating a safe exit plan, building a support network, and finding your way back to yourself.

This isn’t about pointing fingers or placing blame - it’s about helping you see the patterns, make sense of your experiences, and take back control of your life.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses topics like abuse, manipulation, and toxic relationships, which may be distressing to some listeners. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

Related Episode:

S02E28: Protecting Vulnerable Women: Addressing the Crisis of Sexual Assault with Tanya Hicks

Support and Help Lines

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

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Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

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Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Key Topics covered in this ep: Narcissistic relationships Neurodivergent women and narcissists Love bombing Signs of narcissistic abuse Emotional manipulation Gaslighting tactics Narcissistic abuse recovery Childhood narcissistic abuse Co-parenting with a narcissist Breaking toxic relationship cycles Narcissist red flags Reclaiming self-worth Empathy and people-pleasing Trauma-informed relationships Safe exit plans for abuse Narcissistic partners and healing Identifying narcissistic traits Building a support network Healing from manipulation Emotional hot potato

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Family and domestic violence doesn't stop at home - it has a significant impact on workplaces too. That’s why I’m so grateful to have Laurie Arrowsmith from White Ribbon Australia back on the podcast. Laurie shares practical insights on how workplaces can foster safety, support, and equality for all employees.

As a Senior Workplace Programme Specialist, Laurie has spent over a decade working with both survivors and perpetrators, creating programmes that drive meaningful change.

• The Workplace as a Safe Space: For many, work offers respite from domestic challenges. Learn how supportive policies can protect and empower employees.
• Economic and Cultural Impact: Domestic violence costs businesses billions annually. Discover strategies to minimise absenteeism and support wellbeing.
• Empowering Action: Embedding gender equality and providing training ensures workplaces are part of the solution.
• Supportive Policies: Understand the importance of family violence leave and how discreet workplace resources can make a difference.

Workplaces have a unique opportunity to champion safety, equality, and empowerment. Through proactive policies and leadership, they can make a lasting difference.

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

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Support and Help Lines

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

- Women’s Health Centres: Specialised support for women affected by domestic violence, including counselling and medical services. Contact your local centre.

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

- Legal Aid Australia: Provides legal services and support for those experiencing domestic violence. Each state has its own Legal Aid office.  Contact your local centre.

- Family Court of Australia: Offers resources on family law, protection orders, and information on navigating the court system for those affected by family violence. Visit: familycourt.gov.au

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.

Tech Safety Tips

For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the eSafety Commissioner for guidance on how to protect yourself from tech-facilitated abuse

BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS

If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!

CONNECT WITH ME...

If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

LEAVE ME A REVIEW

Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Key Topics covered in this ep: Family and Domestic Violence Workplace Safety Gender Equality Employee Support Workplace Training White Ribbon Australia Domestic Violence Leave Employee Assistance Programme (EAP) Violence Prevention Policies Inclusive Workplaces Workplace Culture Supporting Survivors Gender-Based Violence Mental Health in the Workplace Workplace Leadership Safer Work Environments Discreet Support Resources Ending Violence Against Women Workplace Wellbeing Economic Impact of Domestic Violence

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**This audio has been replaced with a solo key take away messaging from Jane due to issues with audio quality** - Please email [email protected] if you would like a copy of the original audio - it is scratchy which for those with noise sensitivity was difficult to listen to**

Domestic Violence is one of those topics that’s so much more complicated than it seems from the outside. This week, I sat down with Elyse Nauta for a second time, and as always, she brought incredible insight. Elyse has 15 years of experience in child protection, working everywhere from metro areas to remote regions like the Kimberleys. We explored the big question: why don’t women just leave? Spoiler: it’s not as simple as it sounds.

Key topics covered:

• The Complexity of Staying
• The Subtle Grip of Coercive Control
• The Cycle That Keeps Victims Hoping
• Understanding Why Perpetrators Act
• Barriers That Make Leaving So Hard
• How We Can Help

Elyse paints a vivid picture of what life can look like for women caught in these situations. Her insights remind us that understanding the ‘why’ behind someone staying in an abusive relationship is key to offering real support.

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

Related Episodes

Coercive Control and Lived Experience Episode

Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Statistics Referenced

Who are the Perpetrators? Why am I using the term men? The Australian data shows that 75% of domestic violence perpetrators are men: Perpetrator Statistics

Support and Help Lines

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

- Women’s Health Centres: Specialised support for women affected by domestic violence, including counselling and medical services. Contact your local centre.

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

- Legal Aid Australia: Provides legal services and support for those experiencing domestic violence. Each state has its own Legal Aid office.  Contact your local centre.

- Family Court of Australia: Offers resources on family law, protection orders, and information on navigating the court system for those affected by family violence. Visit: familycourt.gov.au

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.

Tech Safety Tips

For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the eSafety Commissioner for guidance on how to protect yourself from tech-facilitated abuse.

BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS

If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!

CONNECT WITH ME...

If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

LEAVE ME A REVIEW

Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

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A dedicated team of neuro-affirming psychologists, occupational therapists, counsellors, and speech pathologists that you can trust and who have been specifically trained to support your family's journey with compassion, expertise, and individualised care.

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Friendships can be tricky, especially when navigating neurodivergence. As parents, we often wonder how to help our kids make meaningful connections, set healthy boundaries, and deal with social challenges.

That’s why I brought in the one and only Bec Sparrow A.K.A. Australia’s Friendship Whisperer. With two decades of experience as a writer, speaker, and advocate for connection, Bec has helped countless parents, teens, and schools understand what it takes to create meaningful, lasting friendships. Her passion for belonging shines through in this episode, where she shares insights drawn from both her professional expertise and her lived experiences.

We explore:

• Friendship as a skill: Why friendships aren’t instinctive for everyone and how to teach kids (and yourself) to build meaningful connections step by step.
• Setting boundaries with confidence: Practical tips for helping kids say no and communicate their needs without guilt.
• Spotting red flags in friendships: Bec uses Dr Brené Brown’s BRAVING framework to break down the key elements of trust and healthy relationships.
• Handling conflict with kindness: How to navigate disagreements without creating unnecessary drama.
• Expanding social circles: Why building friendships outside of school is essential for resilience and avoiding negative peer pressure.

More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/ 

Related Episode:

S02E35: ADHD and Autistic Friendships with Prof Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle Garnett

• Follow Bec on Instagram: @rebeccasparrow72
• Find more resources, articles, and info on Bec’s online programs: https://rebeccasparrow.com/ 
• Get Bec Sparrow’s latest book: Out of the Box
• Dr Brené Brown’s Podcast about the BRAVING acronym: The Anatomy of Trust
• Listen to Bec on the Parental as Anything TEENS podcast

BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS

If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!

CONNECT WITH ME...

If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

LEAVE ME A REVIEW

Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

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Today, we're diving into an important yet often difficult topic - what women need to consider for safety and support when thinking about leaving an abusive relationship. Laurie from White Ribbon Australia is a leading voice in domestic violence prevention and intervention. At White Ribbon Australia, she manages the Workplace Accreditation Program, fostering safer spaces for women and families. Laurie has dedicated her career to reducing violence, supporting survivors, and holding perpetrators accountable. Laurie’s here to walk us through those essential first steps, sharing insights that could make a world of difference.

Timestamps (approx):

• 1 min – Key steps to consider before leaving an abusive relationship, including understanding the risks and preparing for safety.
• 4 mins – Creating an escape plan with essentials like a “go bag” and securing digital privacy.
• 7 mins – The role of support networks in combating isolation and offering safety when planning to leave.
• 10 mins – Legal protections: applying for intervention orders and working with domestic violence officers for added safety.
• 12 mins – Importance of seeking legal advice and considering mediation as an alternative to family court.
• 17 mins – Exploring options to remain in the home safely by legally removing the partner through sole occupancy orders.
• 20 mins – Recognising manipulation tactics like “love bombing” and the importance of reaching out for guidance.

TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Important Links

Daisy App – A free app developed by 1800RESPECT that provides local support service information while protecting user privacy.

Escaping Violence Payment – Financial assistance up to $5,000 for women experiencing family violence, available through organisations like Uniting and Wesley Mission.

Government Financial Assistance – Support payments like Parenting Payments, Single Income Family Supplement, and Family Tax Benefits A and B for single parents and families.

Support and Help Lines

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

- Women’s Health Centres: Specialised support for women affected by domestic violence, including counselling and medical services. Contact your local centre.

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

- Legal Aid Australia: Provides legal services and support for those experiencing domestic violence. Each state has its own Legal Aid office.  Contact your local centre.

- Family Court of Australia: Offers resources on family law, protection orders, and information on navigating the court system for those affected by family violence. Visit: familycourt.gov.au

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.

Tech Safety Tips

For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the eSafety Commissioner for guidance on how to protect yourself from tech-facilitated abuse.

BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS

If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!

CONNECT WITH ME...

If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

LEAVE ME A REVIEW

Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Commonly known as the ‘queen of common sense,’ Maggie Dent is one of Australia’s most beloved parenting authors, educators, and podcasters. And I finally had the chance to catch up with Maggie!

More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Maggie’s down-to-earth stories and no-nonsense advice will leave you feeling ready to take on the rollercoaster ride of parenting teens. From dealing with slammed doors and one-word answers to navigating school dramas and social pressures, Maggie breaks it all down with heart, humour, and a whole lot of understanding. This is your go-to episode for parenting teens with love, patience, and a sprinkle of laughter when it’s needed most.

Note: This episode includes a brief mention of suicide.

Key Topics Covered:

• What’s happening during adolescence and how it shapes emotions, decisions, and behaviour.
• How to connect with your teen through unconditional love, patience, and understanding - even in challenging moments.
• Tailored tips for kids with ADHD and other neurodivergent traits to help them build confidence and resilience.
• Strategies for supporting teens through tough times with compassion instead of conflict.
• How to set healthy boundaries for screen time, improve sleep, and guide teens in navigating today’s digital challenges.
• Plus a whole lot more!

Resources mentioned:

• Follow Maggie on Instagram: @maggiedentauthor
• Find more resources, articles, and info on Maggie’s workshops and speaking events: https://www.maggiedent.com/ 
• Get Maggie’s Latest Book, Help Me Help My Teen: https://www.maggiedent.com/shop/help-me-help-my-teen/ 
• Follow Maggie on her popular podcast Parental As Anything and her new series The Good Enough Dad.

BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS

If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!

CONNECT WITH ME...

If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

LEAVE ME A REVIEW

Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).

WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

Key topics covered in this ep: ADHD Parenting, Teen Resilience, Maggie Dent, Neurodivergent Teens, Teenage Brain Development, Emotional Regulation, Parenting Strategies, Digital Boundaries, Teen Meltdowns, Empathy in Parenting, Raising Neurodivergent Kids, Adolescence Challenges, Parenting Teens, Teen Mental Health, Building Connection, Screen Time Boundaries, ADHD Support, Navigating School Pressures, Parental Patience, Understanding Adolescents

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TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including domestic violence, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. It includes real-life accounts from survivors that may be distressing. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

In this episode, I speak with Elyse Nauta, who has supported DV families across both metro and regional areas, and is a mum to a neurodivergent daughter. Elyse shares her professional knowledge from working in child protection for over 15 years to talk about the tough, often hidden reality of life after leaving an abusive relationship:

• Leaving Isn’t Always the End: Even after women find the courage to leave, some abusers still find ways to control from afar, especially through kids or by twisting legal systems in a tactic called systems abuse. Elyse helps us understand what that looks like in real life.
• The Power of a Good Support System: From Elyse’s experience, having just one trusted friend or family member to lean on can make a world of difference. We talk about why support can be the key to helping women rebuild their confidence and sense of security.
• Financial and Legal Hurdles: Family Court and co-parenting come with their own challenges, especially when the ex has more financial control. Elyse shares insights on why this can feel like an uphill battle for many women.
• Raising Boys with Better Tools: We dive into why teaching boys healthier ways to handle emotions matters. Elyse believes that showing them what positive relationships look like can help create a safer future for everyone.

Let’s be real: we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Important Links:

Dr. Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men: Listen to Dr. Billy Garvey talk about the importance of guiding boys toward positive masculinity on The Imperfects Podcast: Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men

Support and Help Lines:

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.

- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

- Women’s Health Centres: Specialised support for women affected by domestic violence, including counselling and medical services. Contact your local centre.

- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

- Legal Aid Australia: Provides legal services and support for those experiencing domestic violence. Each state has its own Legal Aid office.  Contact your local centre.

- Family Court of Australia: Offers resources on family law, protection orders, and information on navigating the court system for those affected by family violence. Visit: familycourt.gov.au

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.

Tech Safety Tips

For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the eSafety Commissioner for guidance on how to protect yourself from tech-facilitated abuse.

Reference:

What is Coercive Control? (Relationships Victoria link)

Signs of Coercive Control in a relationship and what to do next.

Myths about Family Violence

Stay strong, stay informed, and remember - you are not alone. We see you, and we’re here to help.

BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS

If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!

CONNECT WITH ME...

If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

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LEAVE ME A REVIEW

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WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

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In today’s episode, I welcome back Claire Britton, a neurodivergent OT with a wealth of experience supporting ADHD and neurodivergent families. Claire brings a unique, practical perspective on managing ADHD - think habit-stacking, body doubling, and dopamine menus! She shares insights on evidence-backed strategies that have helped her clients and breaks down why some popular approaches might not be the best fit for everyone.

Claire and I also explore her thoughts on:

• Building ADHD-friendly routines that are easier to stick to
• Why neurodiversity-affirming strategies can make a difference in day-to-day life
• The difference between "shoulds" and "coulds" 
• Outdated or non-neurodiversity-affirming approaches to be cautious about
• The role of perfectionism and how it impacts parents’ self-compassion
• Strategies for being honest about your needs to avoid social exhaustion
• Neurodivergent communication styles, like the “dramatic” expression of emotions
• Double empathy: understanding neurotypical vs. neurodivergent communication
• The challenges and benefits of unmasking emotions
• How society’s expectations can shape ADHD experiences, especially for children and women
• Creating a versatile “toolbox” of ADHD strategies, customised to individual needs, with an emphasis on flexibility over rigid rules

If you’re looking for fresh ideas or just a conversation that makes you feel seen, Claire’s perspective might just give you a few tools and insights to explore. I enjoyed chatting with Claire again and hope you find some value here too! 

Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Claire on Instagram: @neuroinclusion.au
• Learn more about Claire’s work at NeuroInclusion
• Australasian ADHD Professionals Association Clinical Guidelines: Comprehensive guidelines for evidence-based ADHD management. Read here
• Body Doubling Platforms: Explore these online tools for accountability and focus:
• Deepwrk – Virtual coworking for ADHD support
• Flow Club – Community-guided focus sessions
• Cofocus – One-on-one virtual sessions for productivity
• Dopamine Menu: Learn about Claire’s ADHD self-regulation strategy on her Instagram or website.

Related Episode:

Episode with Claire Britton on Executive Function Challenges in ADHD: Strategies for Success — Apple | Spotify

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

Can I access the NDIS? Use this link to get a free guide to the NDIS to start you on your journey.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.

This episode is part of our Domestic Violence Mini-Series, and today we focus on a critical and often overlooked topic: workplace violence and emotional abuse.

In this episode, we discuss the intersection of workplace violence and domestic violence, exploring how power imbalances can manifest both at work and at home. We share a lived experience from a brave woman who faced workplace bullying and emotional abuse, shedding light on how these subtle but harmful behaviors can deeply affect mental health and productivity.

We explore:

• The hidden nature of workplace emotional abuse
• The similarities between domestic violence and workplace bullying
• Strategies for addressing and preventing violence in professional environments

Workplace and domestic violence are often connected, reinforcing each other through the unequal power dynamics at their core. Our goal is to bring these issues into the light, fostering understanding and encouraging solutions for a safer, more equitable world.

Let’s be real—we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of emotional abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.

Support and Help Lines:

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing.

1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counseling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website

Relationships Australia: Offers counseling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277

Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counseling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491

Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321

Women’s Health Centres: Specialized support for women affected by domestic violence, including counseling and medical services. Contact your local center.

In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)

Legal Protection Orders

If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.

Tech Safety Tips

For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the eSafety Commissioner for guidance on how to protect yourself from tech-facilitated abuse.

References

National Plan To End Violence Against Women

A Strategy for Gender Equality

Australian Data and Statistics Listed in Episode

What is workplace violence

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EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

Can I access the NDIS? Use this link to get a free guide to the NDIS to start you on your journey.

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In this episode of ADHD Mums, I chat with Vanessa Anlezark, a 39-year-old Registered Nurse and Mum, about her experiences managing chronic health conditions, including EDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) and POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome). 

Vanessa's journey highlights the importance of self-advocacy, finding the right healthcare team, and connecting with a supportive community. Her story sheds light on the realities of navigating multiple diagnoses and the resilience it takes to manage neurodiversity alongside chronic conditions.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding EDS and POTS: Vanessa breaks down what Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and POTS are, explaining their impact on the body and their connection to neurodivergent conditions like ADHD and Autism. 
• The Diagnosis Journey: With no genetic markers for hEDS, diagnosis can be difficult. Vanessa discusses the 2017 diagnostic criteria, the challenges of misdiagnosis, and the empowering nature of knowledge, even when no cure exists.
• Advocacy in Healthcare: From facing medical gaslighting to seeking specialised care, Vanessa shares practical advice on advocating for yourself or loved ones in the healthcare system.
• Finding Support and Community: Vanessa emphasises the importance of connecting with others, whether through online support groups or specialists knowledgeable in hypermobility and autonomic disorders.
• Self-Diagnosis and Validation: For those struggling to get an official diagnosis, self-diagnosis can still provide validation and help in managing symptoms effectively.

Mentioned Resources:

• The Ehlers-Danlos Society – Visit Website
• EDS Diagnostics 2017 (Note: This criteria can be used by any doctor for diagnosis) – Visit Website
• The Dysautonomia Project – Visit Website
• The Australian POTS Foundation – Visit Website
• Mast Cell Action – Visit Website
• Mast Attack – Visit Website
• Mast Cell Activation Syndrome & Dysautonomia - Dr. Lawrence Afrin – Watch Video

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If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.

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- YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCB0uYIHpFKFo6AdhQQaBr1w

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Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mum’s who may be at their wit’s end).

WANT TO COLLABORATE?

If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected].

EXTRA RESOURCES:

Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/self-tests/

Can I access the NDIS? Use this link to get a free guide to the NDIS to start you on your journey.

Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/

#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdmums #adhdkids #adhdteen #adhdawareness #adhddiagnosis #neurodiversity

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