I’ve always thought that romantic heartbreak was the ultimate pain, but this conversation? It challenged everything I believed about the grief of losing a friend…

I sat down with the phenomenal Michelle Elman - five-time bestselling author, life coach and the renowned ‘Queen of Boundaries’ - to debate the ideas in her powerful new book, "Bad Friend". We get into why society seems to place friendship at the bottom of the hierarchy of grief and I challenge her on whether losing a friend can truly hurt more than a romantic split.

If you’ve ever felt the sting of a friendship ending, questioned your own role in your relationships or felt lonely even when surrounded by people, this episode is for you. We don't shy away from the uncomfortable questions and I share some of my own vulnerabilities and blind spots.

This is a journey into the pain we rarely give ourselves permission to feel. So, ready to change your mind?

Find Michelle Elman:

Book "Bad Friend": https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bad-Friend-Friendship-Breakups-Hurt/dp/1408749459

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleelman

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Chapters: 

00:00:00 Introduction Trailer

00:03:14 Society’s Hierarchy of Grief: Is It Wrong? 

00:04:32 I’ve Never Wanted a “Best Friend” 

00:06:17 Why Am I A Bad Texter?

00:08:19 Do Your Parents' Friendships Secretly Control Yours? 

00:13:38 The Energy of Friendship

00:18:25 Staying In A Friendship You've Outgrown 

00:20:06 Should Friendships Be Transactional? 

00:22:50 Is It My Fault If My Friend Is Upset? 

00:27:07 Are We Only There for the Lows?

 00:30:06 Making Friends As An Adult: Why Is It So Hard? 

00:32:08 The Shame of Being Alone

00:41:40 Taking Accountability For Failed Friendships 

00:49:29 The Truth About Bridesmaids & Hen Parties 

01:04:18 "Forever Friends": Do They Actually Exist Anymore? 

01:05:50 The Boyfriend Usually Wins... Is That Wrong?

 01:14:00 Should You Block Your Ex-Friends? 

01:29:50 Have I Changed My Mind?

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