In this episode, I talk about the patterns so many of us find ourselves repeating after infidelity — the emotional loops, the unspoken agreements, and the old roles we unconsciously keep stepping back into. I explore why these patterns return even when we believe we've healed them, and I share how breaking these loops requires something deeper than waiting for someone else to change. It requires choosing differently for ourselves.

I walk you through how relational contracts form, how they expire, and why trying to rebuild inside an outdated contract keeps you stuck in pain. I share what it means to create a new contract — one based on truth, self-responsibility, and clarity — whether with the same partner or within a new chapter of your life entirely.

My intention is to help you see your patterns with honesty and compassion so you can step into a more empowered way of relating to yourself and others.

Takeaways:

• Old relational contracts can expire long before the relationship ends.
• Loops break when I stop abandoning myself.
• A new relationship contract requires truth, clarity, and personal power.
• Growth begins the moment I choose differently.

If this resonates and you're ready to break your own patterns, I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12

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