Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered?

Yeah. That counts as testing.

And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship feels exhausting, unstable, or emotionally unsafe… even when your partner is actually showing up for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common anxious attachment patterns: testing your partner to prove they care.

Because here’s the hard truth:

They can’t pass a test they don’t know they’re taking.

And the more you test…

the less safe the relationship actually feels - for both of you.

In this episode, we talk about:

💭 Why pulling back to “see what they do” creates distance instead of closeness

🧠 The anxious attachment pattern behind relationship testing

🔥 Why testing your partner is actually a form of control — not connection

🪞 The hidden reason testing feels necessary (even when your partner is good)

❤️ Why engineered love never feels as safe as natural love

🌱 How to shift from testing → trusting in your relationship

And yes, we talk about the very real moment where you don’t say what you want…

just to see if they remember.

(Hi, Costco sushi test. Been there 😅)

Because constantly watching, analyzing, and waiting to see what they do… is emotionally exhausting.

And honestly? No one wants to feel like they’re in a relationship performance review.

This episode is for you if:

✨ You pull back to see if they’ll chase you

✨ You test to see if they remember what you want

✨ You feel anxious unless they prove they care

✨ You feel like you’re doing all the emotional work

✨ You struggle to trust even when they show up

Because secure relationships don’t grow through testing.

They grow through communication.

And through trusting that love can show up naturally...without being forced.

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