September 02, 2025

Attachment Styles 101: Stop calling anxiety love

31 minutes

We’re talking attachment styles — the blueprint for how you love, fight, chase, or push people away. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, why you freak out when someone pulls back, or why “secure” feels boring compared to chaos — this episode is for you.

We're going down the rabbit hole on:

The four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and and why they're so important to identify and understand.

Why 75% of relationships involve at least one insecure attachment style

How your attachment style isn’t a life sentence — it can shift with the right partner, therapy, or self-work.

The messy intersection of attachment styles, love languages, and toxic traits (spoiler: your toxic trait is often the opposite of your love language).

How to stop calling anxiety “love” and start seeing security as peace, not boredom.

It’s part psych lesson, part roast of my own past dating choices, and part pep talk to stop choosing the bad boy just because he makes your nervous system light up. Secure isn’t boring. Secure is freedom.

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By Emma Paige

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September 02, 2025

Attachment Styles 101: Stop calling anxiety love

31 minutes

We're going down the rabbit hole on:

The four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and and why they're so important to identify and understand.

Why 75% of relationships involve at least one insecure attachment style

How your attachment style isn’t a life sentence — it can shift with the right partner, therapy, or self-work.

The messy intersection of attachment styles, love languages, and toxic traits (spoiler: your toxic trait is often the opposite of your love language).

How to stop calling anxiety “love” and start seeing security as peace, not boredom.

Get 15% off your Schedule35 orders with code toomuch at Schedule35.co

For collaborations and opportunities, email: [email protected]

⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!!

⁠Join the muchness on Patreon⁠

Follow Too Much:

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Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below.