The core idea of attachment theory is that humans, as social beings, have an innate need to form close emotional bonds and attachments with others. It has profound implications for understanding human relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and parent-child relationships. 

Valeria welcomes licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Julie Menanno for an eye-opening conversation about our individual attachment needs. We kick things off by exploring the foundations of attachment theory and what it means to parent with an attachment-focused mindset. The different attachment styles take center stage, shedding light on how they shape our emotional bonds and behaviors.

They touch on the typical environment for avoidant attachment and why being dismissive with your partner can be a red flag and the pitfalls of relationship advice found online and why it's often based on conflict. Plus, we'll reveal the intriguing fact that only half of our attachment needs are met in our relationships.

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What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

00:30 The attachment theory

04:45 Parenting with an attachment mind

07:14 The different attachment styles

11:24 Disorganized attachment

14:02 Attachment style starts in childhood

15:44 Couples with different attachment style

19:09 Bridging the gap between the different attachment styles

23:23 Practice self check-in before reacting

25:51 The typical environment for avoidant attachment

29:43 Being dismissive with your partner

34:59 Triggers can be the small things

37:32 Do the work during bond building

38:27 The guide to create an attachment friendly environment

40:38 Attachment style with your children

42:57 Are you an anxious parent?

45:39 Men are avoidant, women are anxious type

47:43 Can’t masculine and feminine energy co-exist within us?

49:21 Does our attachment style affect our feminine/masculine energy

51:02 Relationship advice online are enemy-based 

53:54 Only half of our attachment needs are met

56:43 Ways understand you and your partner’s attachment needs


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Attachment Theory: Secrets to a Successful Relationship with Julie Menanno

Welcome to "Not Alone," a podcast where we dive deep into the stories that shape us. Hosted by Valeria Lipovetsky, this space is dedicated to revealing the raw, often unspoken challenges faced by women from all walks of life. Each episode invites you to listen to heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who open up about their personal battles, breakthroughs, and the lessons learned along the way.

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This week, Valeria is joined by Dr. Sara Reardon, a pelvic health physical therapist, for an enlightening conversation on the often overlooked but vital topic of pelvic health. In this episode, Dr. Sara, known affectionately as the "Vagina Whisperer," dives into the importance of pelvic floor health, debunking common myths, discussing postpartum challenges, and providing empowering knowledge for women at all life stages. From discussing the implications of pelvic health on mental wellbeing, to dispelling postpartum sex misinformation, to actionable advice on advocating for better medical care, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone interested in reclaiming and understanding their body, learning how to advocate for yourself, and learning the critical aspects of pelvic wellness.
Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a doctor of physical therapy and board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist with over 17 years of experience helping women with bowel and bladder issues, painful intercourse, pregnancy, postpartum recovery, and staying dry and pain-free in the later years of life. She is known on social media as The Vagina Whisperer with collectively over 600,000 followers on Instagram and TikTok. 
Sara is the Founder and Chief Vagina Officer of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform with pelvic floor education and exercises for pregnancy, postpartum, menopause, painful sex and pelvic floor strengthening. She is currently writing her first book, FLOORED: A Complete Guide to Women’s Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage. 
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What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

02:30 Pelvic health physical therapist

03:54 Specializing in pelvic floor health

07:22 The pelvic floor physiology

09:15 Normalize talk about pelvic floor

14:39 How to become the driver of your own healthcare 

17:36 Women are still struggling with pelvic care

23:51 Common postpartum care issues

26:28 Marital troubles and painful intercourse

28:32 Connection between painful sex and pelvic floor

32:37 Urinary leakage after childbirth

34:36 Workout for the pelvic floor

35:53 How do you educate young girls about pelvic floor health

39:39 Physical changes after giving birth

44:31 Less traumatic postpartum recovery  

46:08 How to prepare for afterbirth care

50:15 Better options for better healthcare for women

52:29 Resources to learn more about birthing and postpartum


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Women’s Health Revolution: Conquering Postpartum and Pelvic Pain with Dr. Sara Reardon

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Hi guys, today, we have a SOLO episode! I love my job and I love being able to connect with you all through social media but I’m also hyper-aware of how it impacts our minds and perceptions of those we follow. We know by now that social media isn’t REAL, it’s all the best parts and it often flattens us into two-dimensional characters. And it is so important that we remember that we are all more complex, that we’re all trying our best to figure things out as we go. There’s no such things as a perfect parent or a perfect relationship or a perfect business. We all face challenges whether it’s internal or in our environment and I hope this episode makes you feel less alone in that. 
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What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

01:10 Social media is fake

03:55 Being the perfect and superwoman mother on social media

09:36 Finding balance as a new mom

12:08 Overcoming imposter syndrome

16:56 Embracing feminine energy

27:26 Learning to celebrate accomplishments

31:04 Guilt in motherhood


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Breaking the Silence: The Reality of My Marriage and Motherhood Journey

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This week, Valeria is joined by her good friend and supermodel, Toni Garrn. Together, they explore the depths of Toni's journey, from her early days in the modeling world to her current impactful role as a philanthropist. Valeria and Toni chat all things saturn return, turning 30, divorce, finding a balance between work and motherhood, and about how to find a greater purpose in life through acts of service for others. 
Toni Garrn is an internationally successful supermodel, actress, philanthropist – and entrepreneur. Since the age of 15, Garrn has regularly appeared in front of the camera for well-known luxury brands. In her mid-20s, she founded the Toni Garrn Foundation, which supports educational initiatives for girls and young women in sub-Saharan Africa. Together with local partners in Ghana, Uganda and Burundi, the organization provides educational opportunities to more than 650 girls annually.
This year, Garrn also became a social entrepreneur: She founded SUPER FLEA MARKET, a platform for pre-loved celebrity fashion where every sale supports a network of social and environmental justice initiatives. superfleamarket.org will go live in May 2024.
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What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

00:31 How did Toni get discovered as a model?

04:27 What made Toni stay in the industry

05:56 “Modeling never became my identity…”

07:14 Prioritizing meaningful connections

10:02 Juggling motherhood, career, and guilt

13:30 A Victoria’s Secret model’s routine

17:41 Getting into philanthropy

22:03 The authenticity of model activism

24:25 Philanthropy projects in Africa

28:16 Transparency and trust

31:47 Sponsoring other children

35:44 The joy of giving

38:19 Super Flea Market

42:24 The people behind the Toni Garrn Foundation

43:27 Toni outside of modeling and activism

44:59 Lessons from Saturn return

49:12 Finding fulfillment in acts of service

50:46 Making a difference where it's needed most

52:15 The importance of having fun

53:46 Toni’s reflection on the future


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Toni Garrn: Find Your Purpose

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Today, Valeria welcomes the dynamic Codie Sanchez. Valeria and Codie explore the nonlinear paths of our lives and the importance of maintaining curiosity as a tool for continuous learning. The two tap on conventional wisdom with discussions on the myths of working smarter versus harder and debunk the idea that you can get paid for being lazy. The conversations also cover various topics such as the impact of what we consume online, the dynamics of the workplace, and the often misunderstood concept of toxic positivity. Codie Sanchez is the founder and CEO of Contrarian Thinking, a digital media company, and Contrarian Thinking Capital, a small business holding company that is focused on bringing Main Street businesses back to the limelight.
Codie Sanchez is the Founder and CEO of Contrarian Thinking, one of the fastest growing financial media businesses with 6 million followers and 100 million monthly views. She is also the Founder of Contrarian Thinking Capital, a venture capital firm, and Main Street Holding Company with 25+ small or, what we call, “boring businesses.” Think car washes, laundromats, property management companies etc. She is a former partner at one of the largest cannabis investment firms, where she invested in 65+ companies. Her specialty is in the roll-up, turnaround and add-on space. She built First Trust’s $1 billion+ AUM Latin America business and held leadership positions at Goldman Sachs, State Street, and Vanguard.
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Not Alone Podcast
What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

02:48 Our path isn’t linear

05:26 Curiosity is a skill

06:16 Myth: Work smarter not harder

10:39 What do we consume most online?

12:17 Getting paid to be lazy

14:57 The Sexy-Boring matrix

16:27 Unhappy working employee

21:34 How do you grow your network

23:40 People aren’t happier 

26:53 Toxic positivity

27:26 How do you define success?

30:35 Your problems shrink as time passes

34:47 Money is a cruel mistress

36:43 This isn’t how you get rich

38:19 Contrarian Thinking


39:13 Running a business is hard

40:28 How the rich get rich

43:32 You gotta work hard for it

46:04 Women equally competing with men

47:42 Women empowerment

50:43 Sharing your success  

53:07 Having conversations with yourself

47:17 Think about what you post

53:53 What’s wrong with judgment?

56:43 MBAs are useless?

59:39 The future of education

01:04:45 Navigating your feminine/masculine energy

01:07:46 If you’re going to work with your partner

01:10:52 Do you have a big ego?


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Unleashing Wealth: How to Invest and Get Rich with Codie Sanchez

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In today’s episode, Valeria is joined by none other than, Heidi D’Amelio! Together, Valeria and Hedid chat all about motherhood, their family’s rise to fame, dealing with online hate, and overcoming marriage struggles. The pair also dive into what it means to find yourself again after motherhood and letting your children be free and live their own lives. Join Valeria and Heidi for a raw, emotional conversation all about personal identity, growing through life’s seasons, and being selfish in a positive way. 
Heidi D’Amelio, is best known as mom to Dixie and Charli, two of the most popular names in social media today. In 2019, Heidi’s youngest daughter Charli started posting dances on the popular app Tik Tok and literally overnight became the most followed name on the platform. Heidi’s dedication to being a present but not overbearing mom has grown her own following of over 10 million and growing.The family currently has a combined following of over 300 million.
 Heidi recently competed on season 31 of Dancing with the Stars alongside pro, Artem Chigvintsev on top of being a full-time mom and overseeing her family’s demanding schedules. Heidi continues to pursue her passions which include health and wellness, fitness, and philanthropy. Balancing personal and work life and ensuring the internet is a safe place, not only for her daughters but for other teens, is always her main priority. 
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What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

00:21 Moving to LA

02:57 Importance of maternal wisdom

09:31 Being a mom of two famous teenagers

13:35 Finding yourself at 52

19:12 Dealing with negative comments

23:41 How 'Dancing With the Stars' tested Heidi’s family 

31:21 Creating a kinder connection in marriage

34:40 Family therapy and public scrutiny

38:55 The importance of family unity in Hollywood

41:03 Becoming public figures as a family

47:22 Cancel culture

51:19 Longevity and staying relevant

56:23 How family keeps us grounded

58:23 D’Amelio family behind the cameras

1:00:37 Parenting in the social media era

1:09:31 Who is Heidi?


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Attachment Theory: Secrets to a Successful Relationship with Julie Menanno

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