The problem— 

Addicts—tuned out; numbed out; in-denial; lack emotional “wholeness” skills; the opposite of mindfulness is the state of compulsion/addiction; truthful vs. hiding; open vs. isolated; confront vs. escape and avoid; resilient vs. fragile;  reality vs. fantasy; imposter vs. true/higher self

Partners—In survival mode; trying to make it thru the day; intrusive thoughts; difficulty trusting anyone, including themselves; their own internal “gut” is compromised; living reactively rather than proactively; defense mechanisms are compromising their authenticity, which then leads to self-betrayal.

An integral part of the solution:  Journaling—

- Forces us to slow down and examine before reacting

- Crucible for practicing self-examination, authenticity, vulnerability, accountability, etc.,  free from self-judgment and judgment from others.

- Preparation tool for connection (i.e., Couples Check-ins)

How?

- Unfiltered; for your eyes-only; no journaling for "posterity;" not rushed.

- A little bit each day is MUCH better than a lot once a week.

- Use the S.O.A.P. method to guide your journaling.


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Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

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