To his three daughters, Jeff is just "there" — a treasured family heirloom, the silver platter that lives on the shelf and rarely gets used.

In this episode, Jeff surfaces from five delirious days of stomach flu, his girls recording TikTok dances around his sickbed, and uses the quiet to trace the unglamorous work of fathering: dawn walks through Williamsburg with a baby zipped against his chest, bedtime reading marathons that ended only when sleep finally won, and the slow shift from carrying his daughters to chauffeuring them. Schuyler joins to talk about what remains when influence gives way to presence, and why the thing that matters most may be the least visible — showing up every day and asking nothing in return.

This is the 5th episode of Diaries of a Dance Dad, an audio memoir series in Jeff's own words. It spans the full arc of parenthood: the inhale of birth and early chaos, the grind of no sleep and travel with kids, the gut-punches of failure, and the slow exhale of letting go.

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