Borderline Abuse of partners is significant and traumatizing. Both men and women with BPD abuse their partners. Many who are in relationships with someone with suspected or diagnosed BPD are trauma bonded due to their own codependency. Abuse is not love. Untreated Borderlines don't attach or love they try to possess you, control you, and they often become obsessed. Borderline abuse is a deal breaker and codependents need therapy to break the trauma bond and heal from broken abusive relationships and codependency.