Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It's not manifested
in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most
unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use "we" when they share their narrative
(often not a very aware one). People with Codependency most often use "they" and
this matters not only because of Codependent denial but also the often focused on
"they" is an obstacle to healing and recovery and increases exponentially the pain
of people with Codependency in, during, and after the BPD relationship breakup.