SOLVED with Mark Manson

Boundaries, Solved: How to Set (And Keep) Your Boundaries This Year


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This is probably the most comprehensive, no-BS breakdown of boundaries you're going to find anywhere. We cover what boundaries actually are (spoiler: it’s not just telling people to f*ck off), why they matter more than you think, and how your entire life—your relationships, mental health, identity, even career—is quietly shaped by whether or not you have them.

By the end of this, you’ll know exactly how to set boundaries, how to enforce them without being a jerk, and how to stop confusing your preferences, rules, and passive-aggressive texts for actual emotional maturity. Plus, we talk about how the internet has totally mangled this concept and what to do instead. If you’ve ever felt burned out, resentful, overwhelmed, or just vaguely annoyed by everyone around you, this is for you.


We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/boundaries


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Chapters:

(0:00) Introduction
(1:29) CHAPTER 1: Foundations of Boundaries
(2:05) The Breakdown: What boundaries actually are (and aren’t)
(4:42) The Spectrum: Porous, Rigid, Healthy
(9:06) Boundaries vs. Values, Rules, Preferences, and Requests
(13:32) What happens when boundaries erode?
(18:46) The Solution: Boundaries as structure and freedom
(22:57) CHAPTER 2: Boundaries: Freedom Through Limitation
(25:09) Creativity with Limitations
(29:15) Mental Health and Limitations
(38:53) Example
(42:54) Boundaries and Maturity
(45:20) CHAPTER 3: Why Boundaries Matter
(50:00) The Basis of Boundary Formation: Values
(58:30) Translating Values into Boundaries
(1:04:06) The Application: Living Your Valued Boundaries
(1:10:14) CHAPTER 4: Why We Fail to Set and Maintain Boundaries
(1:11:11) Developmental Origins
(1:22:53) Personality and Individual Differences
(1:29:48) Emotional Regulation and Mental Health
(1:46:06) CHAPTER 5: Types of Boundaries
(1:46:53) Physical Boundaries
(1:49:28) Emotional Boundaries
(1:51:44) Intellectual Boundaries
(1:56:02) Time Boundaries
(2:00:03) Digital Boundaries
(2:09:01) Financial Boundaries
(2:12:42) Family boundaries
(2:18:52) Friendship Boundaries
(2:23:06) Work Relationship Boundaries
(2:28:22) Boundaries around authority
(2:30:02) Self Boundaries
(2:34:39) Chapter 6: How to Set and Maintain Boundaries
(3:13:37) Chapter 7: Boundaries in Romantic Relationships
(3:30:52) Parenting
(3:37:04) Research & Frameworks
(3:40:44) Western Romance
(3:44:48) CHAPTER 8: The 80/20 of Boundaries


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