What is “good sex,” and how do we have it? You don’t have to figure it out all on your own. This week, we have someone who can help: Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, author of “Good Sex: Stories, Science and Strategies for Sexual Liberation.”

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If you’re familiar with Jensen McRae’s music, you know it’s filled with details of past loves: navy bedsheets, pilgrim ashtrays, trips out east. Her songs hit you to your core — but who were the loves that inspired them? The singer-songwriter talks about some of her past relationships that inspired hit songs like "Massachusetts," why we should have realistic expectations in romantic relationships, and what it’s like now dating as a public figure.

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How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days may arguably be one of the best romantic comedies to exist. Matthew McConaughey shirtless. Kate Hudson's perfect mix of crazy and cute. The sexual tension between the two! But how has the classic rom-com shaped our idea of love? Comedians Brandon Follick and Ai Vy Lu'u join Boysober's first-ever Rom-Com Roundtable to break it down.

To hear more of Brandon and Ai Vy, check out their new podcast Everybody Wants To Be My Friend.

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It’s said that you don’t get to choose your family. But what if you can? Actor-singer and “Gaydar” host Anania shares her personal journey with discovering her own identity, coming out, expressing herself through drag, and finding a supportive chosen family.

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Boysober has never been about giving up sex entirely. It’s about taking a break to understand yourself better. What do you really want? What do you like? And who do you want to do it with? In this episode, Kink Consultant Amanda Dames helps us understand how to explore our own desires and how to improve pleasure in and out of the bedroom.

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Growing up in the '90s and early 2000s, we were told a lot of lies about what women want, what women should be, and what men fantasized about. What unrealistic standards are we still unlearning, what does it have to do with porn and 9/11, and are things any better now? Sophie Gilbert, the author of Girl on Girl, takes us through it.

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How do you find yourself when you’ve been raised under a strict moral code? That’s what musician and comedian L.J. Granered had to figure out when they started exploring their sexuality after an upbringing in the Evangelical Church.

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How can we untangle the emotional and physical in our relationships? Can we ever find a happy medium between hook-up culture and celibacy? And what counts as “sex” anyway? This week, we’re tackling these questions - and more! - with sex therapist and Feel It All author Casey Tanner. 

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If there was a class on how to go Boysober, Melissa Febos’ book The Dry Season would be at the top of the syllabus. Melissa’s new memoir recounts a time when she did what Hope could not — give up dating, romance, and sex for an entire year. Hope talks to Melissa to better understand how she achieved this and how it rewired her brain to not be guided by the patterns of old relationships.

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Your relationship with your family has a lot to do with all the other relationships in your life, platonic or romantic. If you're having issues in those relationships, you might have to go all the way back to the beginning to figure out what's wrong. That's just what today's guest, Charlene Kaye, did with her mother.

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