Growing up in the '90s and early 2000s, we were told a lot of lies about what women want, what women should be, and what men fantasized about. What unrealistic standards are we still unlearning, what does it have to do with porn and 9/11, and are things any better now? Sophie Gilbert, the author of Girl on Girl, takes us through it.

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How do you find yourself when you’ve been raised under a strict moral code? That’s what musician and comedian L.J. Granered had to figure out when they started exploring their sexuality after an upbringing in the Evangelical Church.

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How can we untangle the emotional and physical in our relationships? Can we ever find a happy medium between hook-up culture and celibacy? And what counts as “sex” anyway? This week, we’re tackling these questions - and more! - with sex therapist and Feel It All author Casey Tanner. 

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If there was a class on how to go Boysober, Melissa Febos’ book The Dry Season would be at the top of the syllabus. Melissa’s new memoir recounts a time when she did what Hope could not — give up dating, romance, and sex for an entire year. Hope talks to Melissa to better understand how she achieved this and how it rewired her brain to not be guided by the patterns of old relationships.

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Your relationship with your family has a lot to do with all the other relationships in your life, platonic or romantic. If you're having issues in those relationships, you might have to go all the way back to the beginning to figure out what's wrong. That's just what today's guest, Charlene Kaye, did with her mother.

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What kind of summer are you having this year? In today’s episode we’re hearing listeners’ love stories from summers past, from flirty flings and sexy hookups to short and sweet relationships and unexpected endings.

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Is rereading old texts a sign of love addiction or just enthusiasm? Content creator Tefi Pessoa gets real about her experiences in intense relationships, the complex work of breaking toxic dating patterns, and how to prioritize self-love.

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Hope dives into the question of why she's still single, with some brutally honest insights from family and a deep conversation with Meghan Keane, author of “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Life Partner.”

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What does it mean to be boysober, and why did Hope do it in the first place? Hear all about her journey and the unexpected setbacks she faced while taking a break from men, sex, and dating. And find out what her new plan for Boysober 2.0 entails. 

• Special thanks to the beautiful people in New York who spoke to us, and to @fenigab, @marilynnoltee, @the.chloebird, @alicesbalance, and @user2765489013 on TikTok. And, of course, Mimi.

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Love is messy. Join Hope Woodard as she dives into the chaos of relationships, identity, and connection with humor and heart.

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