Trusting your own intuition can feel impossible when you grew up with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Many of us were conditioned to override our gut feelings just to keep the peace—making it harder to make confident, healthy decisions as adults. But self-trust isn’t lost forever. With time, consistency, and the right tools, you can rebuild it and start making choices that truly align with your values.

In this episode, I’m diving into:

 ✔ How BPD/NPD parents train us to ignore our instincts to keep them happy
 ✔ Why we tolerate toxic behavior more than other people do—and how to break that cycle
 ✔ The power of cost-benefit analysis to weigh both action and inaction
✔ Why identifying your top 10 personal values is a game-changer for decision-making
✔ How self-trust is built over time (small, consistent steps really matter)
✔ The trap of black-and-white thinking—and why you don’t need 100% certainty to move forward

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother she suspects had NPD with BPD traits. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

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