April 16, 2025

Can a Dismissive Avoidant & Securely Attached Person Make It Work?

53 minutes

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Can love thrive between a dismissive avoidant and someone securely attached? Or is the emotional gap too wide to bridge?

In this deeply validating episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio explore what happens when a dismissive avoidant (DA) partners with a securely attached person. From breakthroughs in vulnerability to the real work required to sustain love, they break down what works, what doesn’t—and what makes all the difference.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ How repeated exposure to secure behaviors helps a DA reprogram core wounds

✔️ Why healthy communication and consistent boundaries are essential

✔️ The difference between leading by example vs. “parenting” a partner

✔️ How co-regulation transforms avoidant emotional patterns

✔️ The #1 factor that determines if the relationship will last

✔️ When it’s time to walk away vs. when to lean in with patience and clarity

Whether you're in this dynamic or love someone who is, this episode helps you see the road ahead clearly—without losing yourself in the process.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

02:05 – 1. Repeated Exposure to a Secure Person Can Improve a DA’s Core Wounds

08:40 – When the Effort Feels One-Sided

19:30 – 2. A Securely Attached Person Still Has Standards

27:15 – 3. The Secure Person Tends to Foster Healthy Communication

35:56 – 4. Emotional Regulation Improves

44:38 – 5. The DA Learns to Have Healthier Coping Mechanisms

45:32 – Can This Relationship Work Long-Term?

52:14 – Conclusion

Meet Your Host:

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a globally respected expert in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, Thais has helped over 70,000 members break free from painful emotional patterns and build secure relationships.

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