Happy 10th Wedding Anniversary to Cate & Ty! On today's episode they dive into their relationship's evolution, including past separations and therapy missteps. But the main event? Ty's recent autism diagnosis! From getting kicked out of daycares, being hyper-focused on social cues, and having a compulsion to do somersaults, Ty describes the frustration he felt throughout his childhood and not knowing why he did what he did. Inspired by their daughter Vaeda, Ty shares the relief and sadness, but also clarity and understanding of his past which now he says he will use to parent differently.

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This week, Cate & Ty get vulnerable about their unexpected pet loss after their 16-year-old dog's passing, sharing the emotional toll and their belief in animal reincarnation. They also talk about the chaotic juggling with middle school orientation and birthday party planning. It gets wild when they read some listener secrets, exposing the most bizarre fetishes to infidelity and family cover-ups.

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Join Cate & Ty as they sit down with Dr. Abby, a transracial adoptee, birth mother, and adoption-informed therapist. Dr. Abby breaks down the true meaning of informed consent in adoption, revealing the systemic issues and personal traumas often hidden beneath the surface. She also shares her personal journey, from her coerced relinquishment as a teenage birth mother to her own experience as an adoptee navigating identity and reunion.

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Prepare to have your mind blown as Cate & Ty sit down with Diana(@blackmarketbaby), an adoptee whose story only gets wilder and wilder. From uncovering the truth about her birth mother's "tiger king" lifestyle and essentially selling her children in the 80s, to navigating complex family dynamics and searching for her biological father, Diana shares her journey of identity and finding her truth in a world that often paints a pretty picture of adoption.

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Camping, kids, and the Trad Wife! Cate & Ty share candid stories from their recent spontaneous camping trip – their first alone in years! From "mom guilt" moments and terrifying tales of lost children, Cate & Ty also discuss adulting woes, Mountain Dew-fueled childhood memories, and Ty discovers the Trad Wife debate and a video that had him going down a rabbit hole.

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The internet can be a dark place and, as veteran social media users, Cate & Ty share their thoughts on the rampant spread of bullying, the issue with "snark pages", and the tragic stories of lives lost. We offer a heartfelt call to action for spreading kindness, fostering empathy, and supporting those who are struggling. 

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In this week's solo episode, Cate & Ty share their recent travel chaos, including a bank card hacking disaster in New York City. They also get real about the challenges of parenting and play "Couples" card game, revealing their communication styles, insecurities, and the surprising similarities that make their relationship work. And what's Tyler's hilarious, unwavering stance on feet fetishes? Let's find out!

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Cate & Ty sit down with psychotherapist and adoptee Amy Silvia (@psychotherapist.amy_) , who shares her personal journey through the Baby Scoop Era and the complex process of reconnecting with her birth family. Drawing on decades of clinical experience working with thousands of adoptees and birth parents, Amy unpacks the profound impact of genetic mirroring, attachment trauma, and the crucial need for "adoptee-focused" therapy. Amy sheds light on the crucial difference between "adoption competence" and truly "adoptee-focused" care, highlighting the mental health struggles faced by adoptees and birth parents, including the shockingly high rates of suicidal ideation. Discover how normalizing difficult adoption conversations can lead to profound healing for the entire adoption triad.

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This week, Cate & Ty tackle your most intimate questions! They discuss keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships, navigating intimacy with kids, and decoding the red flags of infidelity and manipulation. Plus, they share candid thoughts on modern reality TV and the importance of open conversations with your children about sex.

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Cate & Ty sit down with David Shane (@davidbshane), an adoptee who shares stories of love, mindfulness, and human connections on social media, but one day decided to share his journey of being contacted by his biological mother. David opens up about his upbringing, filled with open communication from his adoptive parents, which instilled in him a strong sense of self from a young age. He shares how the reunion with his biological younger sister, and eventually biological parents, came with emotional challenges and expectations, and the aftermath. Cate and Ty discuss with David about the fragility of life, the importance of overcoming fear in pursuing connections before it's too late, and the idea that not all reunions are positive but deserve to be explored with a strong support system. Drawing from his experiences, David offers advice for both adoptive and biological parents, emphasizing the critical role of unconditional support, open communication, and respecting the adoptee's pace during the reunion process.

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