Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

How would you characterize your conversations and interactions on dates? Do you talk about your dreams, your feelings, your ambitions and really show who you are? Or are the topics you discuss more surface level like your profession, where you live or what restaurants you go to? This week, Kim coaches Linda live who's experiencing the latter. Linda doesn't have trouble meeting guys, but rather has difficulties moving past her superficial and guarded conversations. She thinks it's the men she's been out with because they rarely skim the surface and don't really put effort into getting to know her. But in this episode, Kim helps Linda unravel the real reason why deeper connections and attraction are not happening with men. Hint: It's not about the men! Listen closely as Kim talks about ways women wear armor to protect themselves and stay in their masculine conversation to play it "safe." There are nuances and tricks you can inject into your next interactions to improve the quality of conversation, stay in your feminine, be more playful and move past the surface. This episode will help you learn to express to your dates all you have to offer, be more open so that men can feel you and create a deeper attraction overall. If you want to learn more techniques for deepening your conversations and how to flirt with life, join Linda in Kim's private Facebook group the Love Makeover Insiders for woman transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim interviews Lauren Zander, author, life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company. Kim and Lauren have a lively, funny conversation about how to break bad habits that hold you back, and design your love life the way YOU want it to be. This show dives deep on figuring out how to give yourself appropriate consequences and rewards and how to make sure you're actually working towards that goal. Do you have a tendency to self-sabotage? Can you talk yourself into or out of just about anything? Lauren shares that before she got into the life coaching space, she realized that the little voices in the back of her head weren't actually on her team. She needed to create systems to encourage herself to be accountable... to herself. Kim and Lauren talk through how you can identify limiting beliefs - the ones that keep you from achieving what you say you want - and learn to create systems to hold yourself accountable. If there's one tip you should hold onto from this episode it's this: DO THE HOMEWORK. You will start to see results. If you're looking for a supportive community of women dedicated to break their limiting beliefs join Kim's free private Facebook group, Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

Dating is tough for everyone! But what if you knew there were common mistakes that you might be making when trying to attract a partner? There are repetitive behavioral patterns that show up in us over and over again. When you're able to recognize your patterns and challenges, you can make adjustments as needed to get a different result. This week, Kim talks through her 5 Dating Archetypes she has studied over the years as a dating and relationship coach and therapist. Open up your notepad or grab a pen because you're going to want to take notes. Now of course these archetypes are sometimes painted with a broad brush and you likely won't fit neatly into one box. However, pay attention to which characteristics Kim talks about that may have derailed a previous relationship of yours or have prevented you from getting to know someone on a deeper level. Listen to find out all about each one and the strategies you can use to break these patterns in order for you find love! If you want to find out exactly what your dating archetype is, follow this link: https://bit.ly/2JZsSYY and take the Dating Archetype Quiz!

Do you ever hear those pesky voices in your head that say, "You're not good enough," "You're not doing it right," or "No one wants to hear what you have to say?" On this candid and vulnerable episode of Coaching with Kim, you'll get an inside look into how to turn down the volume on these messages that hold you back from being yourself, staying present and making a genuine connection with others on dates. Listen as Kim coaches Adam, a great personable guy who has so much to offer but he has one big problem…the voices tell him that he's NOT enough. When it comes to dating, he finds himself hesitant to express himself fully and nervous to get vulnerable and make a more intimate connection with women he's interested in. We all have those voices of self-doubt that creep into our heads to varying degrees but most people don't know how to soften or get rid of them. Kim talks through some specific techniques that worked for Adam that you can apply in your everyday life. This open and real conversation will help you access and recall powerful, confident states that you've experienced in your life that you can call upon during moments of self-doubt in order to transcend those negative voices. If you want help quieting the gremlins in your head, take advantage of your opportunity to sign up for a FREE breakthrough session, just like Adam's with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

This week, Kim interviews Ryan Moran, an entrepreneur, founder of Capitalism.com and the host of the Freedom Fast Lane Podcast. This show is all about how to create an abundance mindset in your love life, especially when it looks like your options are scarce. Ryan and Kim have a candid conversation about how challenging and painful moments in our lives prompt us to identify patterns we want to change. While moments of adversity can catapult us to action, Kim introduces the fact that success can also motivate positive change. This interview will help connect the dots between how your brain physically responds to positive and negative stimuli, and how that actually shows up in your life. The key is that action promotes change, and the more you can jump straight into action, the bigger shifts you will begin to see. Remember, when you internalize the fact that there IS enough love to go around out there, you will begin to act as if that is true and start to see real results. This episode is full of incredible tips! As always, if you're looking for a supportive community to help push you to action where you're stuck, join Kim's free private Facebook group, Love Makeover Insiders for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

On this week's show, Kim talks all about how perfectionism is holding you back from putting yourself out there in the dating world. Are you reluctant to build a dating profile because you're waiting to take the perfect profile photo? Are you avoiding opportunities to meet new people because you're feeling self conscious or unconfident in your appearance? This episode will teach you that for whatever reason you are putting things off, underneath your need to be perfect is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure -- whatever it is -- until you take action, you will never move forward. Kim tells the story of 2 different clients, both experienced a form of "perfection paralysis", but they took different approaches to handling the problem. Waiting for everything to be perfect can feel easier and safer, but if you want to accomplish something new or create change in your life, you have to get out of your comfort zone and get into ACTION. This episode is honest, direct and gives you a little tough love to recognize that your perfectionism might be an excuse to stay stuck. If you need a jolt in your life to help you get unstuck, take advantage of your opportunity to sign up for a FREE breakthrough session with Kim HERE: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough

You know that exhilarating feeling when you meet someone new who showers you with compliments, makes you feel sexy confident and you can't get enough? But then, out of nowhere, almost as fast as everything started, the relationship is over and you're a wreck. We've all had some level of experience with these "tornado" relationships. In this episode, Kim talks about how to spot the difference between a healthy love and a toxic relationship. Both men and women can create this dynamic but the signs are the same no matter who's driving. Kim talks through typical warning signs you're about to enter the toxic zone. Kim maps out concrete ways you can make sure to not give away your power too soon and how you can recognize if you have a tendency to get sucked into addictive relationship behaviors that hurt you in the long run. If you're ready to take real steps to make a change, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming their love lives from the outside in https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL

This week, Kim interviews wellness expert, Josh Trent. Josh hosts the Wellness Force Radio Podcast and has spent 15 years in the health and wellness industry. He's on a mission to help people live life well through developing physical and emotional intelligence. This conversation is packed with great information and gets intense, fast! Josh shares his personal journey of dealing with anxiety and drastic weight fluctuation. He introduces a powerful concept, "If I can breathe I can choose." These two discuss Josh's dating life, how he's moved off the dating apps and onto other more authentic forms of communication. Listen in for some good tips on how to reframe crippling anxiety, how to combat the epidemic of loneliness and the importance of taking loving care of your wellness and growth. And, if you're single looking to combat loneliness, join Love Makeover Insiders, Kim's FREE private Facebook group for women committed to transforming love lives https://bit.ly/2Ee3sPL