In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety.

• Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselves, and why it is so important to take personal responsibility for our emotional safety.
• Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation: Understand the two-fold approach to managing triggers.
• Discover how practicing self-compassion and sharing your healing journey with your partner, with consent, can deepen understanding and connection.

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Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

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In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love.

• Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma.
• Explore the concept of self-sabotage in healthy relationships, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. 
• Personal share about things I wish I had done differently in the beginning.

Want to hear Part 2: The Breakup? Let me know in the poll or the comments!

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Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

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In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck.

• Move from victim consciousness to empowerment by exploring the wisdom and teachings within challenging experiences.
• Illuminate the traits you are being invited to embody during moments of depression, providing a guiding anchor to filter your experiences through.
• Reality check intrusive thoughts and align your thoughts with how you desire to feel, creating a shift in your emotional state.

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Resources:

• Oprah's Super Soul Conversations with Michael Bernard Beckwith: Participate in Your Unfolding
• Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy
• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

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Forgiveness can feel hard to reach, especially if we have been hurt or harmed in the past. I hope to offer some new perspectives in this weeks episode.

What are 10 things you are ready to forgive yourself for?

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Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

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Inner child work can be messy and intense, as it was for me this week! I go into it all in this week's episode.

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Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!

Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be.

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Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!

Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone.

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Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!

Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first.

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Resources:

• Shadow Work Prompts for People-Pleasing 
• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

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Taking radical personal responsibility rubs up against all of our fears of rejection and abandonment. It is, however, the very thing that can deeply heal our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode I sit down with one of my best friends, Victoria St. Fleur (@ofrootandbranch), as she shares about some of the tools and perspectives that have helped her in healing codependency in her relationships, business, and life.

🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!

Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!

We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships.

🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!

Resources:

• Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! 
• The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
• How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)
• Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby Bookstore

Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!