What happens when your ex moves on quickly… and the relationship actually lasts?

In this episode, I share my perspective three years later and talk about the emotions that come with watching someone you once loved build a long-term relationship with someone else. I discuss how to cope with the comparisons, the questions that come up, and how focusing on your own growth can slowly shift your perspective over time.

This is an honest conversation about healing, acceptance, and how life can evolve in ways you never expected after a breakup.

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There’s a quiet pain in feeling like life has moved on without you.

In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to be left while everyone around you seems to be moving forward. Friends at different life stages, a future that no longer exists, and the loneliness of being in an in-between space you never chose.

This episode is about coping mentally and physically when comparison hits, when your world feels paused, and when you’re just trying to find your footing again. If you feel left behind, you’re not broken, you’re healing.

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2026 is the Year of the Horse , a year of freedom, courage, and forward motion. In this episode, I explore how the Horse’s energy can help you move past heartbreak, restore your vitality, and reconnect with your true self. Learn practical ways to reclaim momentum, set boundaries, follow your desires, and trust your heart. Whether you’re navigating loss or seeking alignment, this episode guides you to move boldly, live fully, and step into life on your own terms. 

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Single on Valentine’s Day? Congratulations, you’re doing it right. In this episode, we reclaim the day for yourself, celebrating independence, self-love, and the power of choosing your own joy. We explore meaningful ways to honour your life, your growth, and your relationships beyond romance , including how to handle seeing an ex with someone else, so you can fully own this day as your own.

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This episode explores the in-between phase after heartbreak, when the old version of you no longer fits and the new one hasn’t arrived yet. 

I talk about identity loss, emotional waves, nervous system regulation, loneliness, and practical ways to cope without rushing healing. This is a slow, grounding episode for anyone living inside transition. 

Nothing is wrong.
Something is reorganizing. 

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This episode is for anyone who’s realised they’re spending more time thinking about their ex than actually living their own life. We talk about how heartbreak quietly hijacks your attention, how “waiting” can become a way of life, and why obsessing over what someone else is doing keeps you stuck. It’s an honest conversation about reclaiming your time, your energy, and your one precious life and choosing yourself instead of watching someone who has already moved on.

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 This episode explores the quiet, unspoken costs of staying in relationships that slowly erode your peace, self-trust, and sense of self. We talk about the things love should never ask you to sacrifice, how to recognise when hope becomes self-abandonment, and how to reclaim yourself after loving deeply. If you’re rebuilding after heartbreak, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and permission to want love that feels safe.

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This episode is for anyone who’s healing, starting over, or quietly rebuilding their life. We’re talking about levelling up without pressure, rushing, or forcing change. Instead, this is about slow, meaningful growth, nervous-system safety, and learning to trust yourself again. If you’re coming out of heartbreak, grief, or a season that changed you, this episode is a reminder that you don’t need to become someone new to move forward. Softness can still create a beautiful, aligned life. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula 

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 Happy new Year to you all. Whether you are going into the New Year still healing from something that happened in 2025 or even before that I have got you. A gentle episode to catch up talk a little bit on goals and one big piece of advice to kick start your year. The whole of January I am taking a calmer approach to setting the tone for the year so you feel supported but motivated for the year ahead wherever you are in your healing journey. 

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This episode is for anyone who made it to Christmas after a breakup and is wondering why it still feels a little unsteady.

I talk about why Christmas can bring emotions back up even when you’ve been healing, why missing someone doesn’t mean you want them back, and why this season isn’t a setback — it’s a pause that reveals how much you’ve actually grown. This isn’t surface-level breakup advice or forced positivity. It’s grounding, honest reframes for navigating Christmas when life looks different than you expected.

If you’re listening on Christmas or around it and need something steady, reassuring, and quietly hopeful, this episode is for you.

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