Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

By Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-FifeHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Sexuality

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Conversations with Dr. Jennifer episodes

December 19, 2023 Something is Already Working: A Discussion on Embodiment, Vulnerability, and Mindfulness with Thomas McConkie
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Several weeks ago, Dr. Finlayson-Fife invited Thomas McConkie to join her and Room for Two annual subscribers for an interactive discussion about embodiment, vulnerability, and the power of mindfulness. This week, we are publishing the recording of this rich and meaningful conversation for ALL to enjoy.
Thomas McConkie is an author, developmental researcher, and mindfulness teacher. He is the founder of the Lower Lights School of Wisdom, a supportive and vibrant community focused on adult development and healing divisions through bridging religious/secular divides. Thomas has a passion for the world's Wisdom traditions, was raised as a Latter-day Saint, and has a deep Christian faith infused with nearly 25 years of Buddhist practice.
Thomas's newly released book, At-ONE-Ment, offers a beautiful exploration of ancient and modern approaches to awakening the mind, purifying the heart, and healing the body. You can learn more about Thomas and his work by clicking HERE.

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1 hr
December 12, 2023 Discomfort for Growth: A Crash Course in Differentiation Theory
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Egodystonic. Enmeshment. Sense-of-self. Differentiation.

These words and the ideas they represent can be unfamiliar and even downright intimidating when you first start listening to Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s podcasts and courses--it can sometimes feel like learning an entirely new language! But, as with learning any new language, the more you immerse yourself by listening and learning, the more clear these transformative concepts will become.

In this NEW podcast episode, Sherrae Phelps interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about her unique approach to coaching and what sets this approach apart from others. Throughout the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife breaks down many of the phrases and concepts that are central to differentiation theory and her work, and goes on to discuss why these concepts are so powerful and effective for those looking to grow in their capacity to love.
Whether you are new to her content or have been here a while, this episode is a helpful listen for anyone who wants a more concrete understanding of differentiation theory and the uncomfortable process of human development and relational change.

47 min
November 21, 2023 The Messy Middle: Midlife Crisis Facebook Live Q&A
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As distressing as midlife can feel sometimes, it's a season full of potential.

It’s the time when, if all goes well, we start to realize that our attempts to earn our value and prove our lovability to others have been not only been exhausting, but also fruitless.

It’s the time when we shift our focus from pleasing others to living in alignment with what we actually believe is best. And as a result, we make greater efforts to live in a way where we can feel at peace with ourselves, our choices, and the impact that our actions have on those around us.

When we can see midlife for what it is, a period of soul-stretching and important growth, we will be able to better tolerate the inevitable ups and downs that come along with it.

This NEW podcast episode is the recording of a live Q&A that Dr. Finlayson-Fife held for members of her Facebook Community. During the discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife took questions from the group about midlife and how we can navigate these often disillusioning middle years with clarity, wisdom, and hope.

This conversation is also available on YouTube, you can watch it HERE.
1 hr
November 14, 2023 Coaching Our Children: Self-Authoring, Belonging, and Personal Authority
As parents, we are hardwired to focus on our child’s wellbeing. Early on, this inclination serves our children well but, as they grow, if our relationship with them doesn’t evolve to make room for their emerging autonomy, we will keep them from developing the capacities they need to flourish in adulthood and navigate the increasingly complex world around them.

As scary as it is to step back and watch as our children take more ownership of their lives and choices, and as hard as it is to watch their inevitable missteps along the way, doing so is fundamental to their growth and development.
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tom Telford, Liza Telford, and Preston Niederhauser, hosts of the BrainSTOKE podcast, to give parents helpful guidance on how they can be loving, wise mentors as their children stumble through the sometimes turbulent transition into adulthood.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Fostering your child’s capacity to self-author
* Fitting in vs belonging
* Establishing guardrails for our kids and knowing when and how to adjust those guardrails
* Overcoming resentment about our own lack of self-authoring
1 hr 12 min
October 31, 2023 Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy
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In this special Halloween episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jeff & Cathy of the LILY POD podcast to discuss why intimacy can be so terrifying, how we can overcome these fears, and the benefits that await those who are courageous enough to really care, know, and understand themselves and others.

Jeff & Cathy are co-authors of the Amazon best-seller Intentional Courtship: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing Up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Together they founded Love in Later Years (LILY) which serves and supports single adults seeking peace, healing, and more joyful relationships. Jeff and Cathy are both Advanced Certified Life Coaches and each hold Bachelors' degrees in Family & Human Development.

1 hr 12 min
October 24, 2023 Love, Loss, and Living Life on Life's Terms: A Conversation with Dr. Adam Miller
Last month, Dr. Adam Miller joined Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Room for Two subscribers for an interactive discussion about love and loss.
The conversation was simply too good to keep contained on the Room for Two podcast, so we are releasing it here today on Conversations with Dr. Jennifer for EVERYONE to enjoy. This beautiful exchange of ideas between Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Dr. Miller will change the way you think about love in the best possible way.
Dr. Adam Miller is a professor of philosophy at Collin College in McKinney, Texas. He earned a BA in Comparative Literature from Brigham Young University and an MA and PhD in Philosophy from Villanova University.
He is the author of over ten books, including “Letters to a Young Mormon” and “Original Grace”, he serves as the current director of the Mormon Theology seminar. You can learn more about Adam and his work HERE.

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This podcast episode discusses the Zack and Kelly series, found on Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Room for Two podcast. You can listen to a portion of the first episode of the series without a subscription HERE.
1 hr 4 min
October 10, 2023Heart & Hustle: Cultivating Intimacy in Busy Lives
Bumping up against the limits of our time, energy, and resources is one of life’s greatest frustrations.

As noble as our intentions and aspirations may be, we all are forced to prioritize how we will spend our finite time and resources in the face of limitless demands and opportunities. Recognizing our personal and professional limitations and being deliberate in the choices we make, allows us to bring our best selves to our careers, families, and lives in general.
In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Dave and Ashley of the On Call with Dr. Dave podcast to talk through the impact of high-demand careers on relationships and the important role that self-awareness, honest communication, and conscious choosing play in keeping resentment and entitlement at bay.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
Collaboration and partnership

Important factors to discuss before pursuing a high-demand career while in a relationship

Combating entitlement and resentment

Keeping play and eroticism alive in marriage

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42 min
October 03, 2023 Developing Sexual Wholeness

The 2023 Restore Conference (a Faith Matters Gathering) is just around the corner! This year, Dr. Finlayson-Fife will be presenting on Eros energy and how this expansive, transformative, and transcendent energy is connected to our spirituality.
Today we are releasing the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's 2022 Restore presentation, "Developing Sexual Wholeness." In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the integration of spirituality and sexuality from an LDS theological perspective. She also walks through the three stages of development (Egocentric, Social, and Self-Authoring) and how each developmental stage shapes how we think about ourselves, our sexuality, and God.
You can watch the video of this presentation HERE.

40 min
September 26, 2023The Challenge of Pornography in Marriage
In this recent Facebook Live, Zach and Darcy Spafford of the Thrive Beyond Pornography podcast joined Dr. Finlayson-Fife to share their personal experience working through unwanted pornography use in their marriage and how after years of feeling stuck and frustrated, they were able to shift gears and make meaningful, lasting progress in their relationship to pornography and their relationship to each other.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
Self-authoring and the importance of claiming your life and choices

The problem with compliance/defiance framing

Role-based marriage vs choice-based marriage

Eroticism in marriage

Approaching difficult conversations with curiosity

A recording of this conversation is also available on our YouTube channel.
1 hr 14 min
August 29, 2023Modesty From the Inside Out
Our bodies and our ability to experience love and joy through them are loving gifts from a loving God.
Sometimes we teach important principles like modesty and chastity in ways that promote an entirely different idea–in ways that imply that our bodies and sexuality are burdens to be overcome and obstacles to our spirituality.

It can also be tempting to overcorrect for this body-shaming stance and see modesty as simply an effort to suppress sexuality and dignity (of women, in particular).

Both of these extremes are simple-minded and unhelpful. A truer understanding of modesty takes into account the value of moderation, self-respect, and how these are related to our choices.
In this NEW podcast episode, I join Aubrey and Tim Chaves from the Faith Matters podcast to talk about modesty and how we can relate to and cherish our bodies so as to experience deeply embodied joy through them.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
Problematic understandings of modesty

Why modesty is such a culturally charged topic

Sexual self-mastery

Healthy ways to talk to youth about modesty and sexuality

Stages of moral development

The gift of sexual conservatism
1 hr 3 min

About Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

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Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!