Shame is the thought "I am bad," while guilt is the thought "I did something bad." Anxiety is the fear of what will happen in the future. There is a huge difference and knowing which negative emotion you are feeling is key in remedying the trigger.

Keys to remember and use when you feel triggered or are coming out of a trigger & action moment:

You are only responsible for your action

• You can influence their actions but you are not responsible for them.

STEM: Stop, Think, Evaluate, and Move

Evaluate what you did and ask yourself:

• why did I do it

• what will I do then?

Five steps to handle and overcome shame, anxiety, and other negative emotions:

1. Bring shame (negative emotions) into the light.

2. Untangle what you are feeling.

3. Unhitch what you do from who you are.

4. Recognize your triggers.

5. Make connections. (The opposite of addiction is connection)

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 The article and books I reference in this episode:

**Five ways to silence shame** article from Psychology Today

"Homecoming" by John Bradshaw

"Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer

"Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown