Courage and Spice for Coaches: build your Self-belief and Business in under 30mins a week

Unconditional Self-acceptance means that we fully and unconditionally accept ourselves regardless of our competence, and whether or not other people approve, respect, or love us.

With self-acceptance, if we mess up, we understand that we’ve messed up. That’s it. No unfavourable judgement. No feeling bad. Hence, no constant fluctuation in self-worth. We start to experience the world differently. If we don’t get what we want, we are still ok.

With unconditional self-acceptance, you are interested in learning from specific beliefs, behaviours and outcomes but your unique you-ness is never up for debate. You become the constant in your own life.

In this episode we explore what Unconditional Self-acceptance looks like, it's many benefits and importantly: how to begin to cultivate it!

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High self-esteem is something many of us desire, its the source of a squillion Pinterest quotes, we tend to worry if our kids don’t have enough of it, it seems to be the secret to professional and personal achievements which is probably why parents, teachers, therapists and coaches bang-on about its many benefits.

But does self-esteem actually make us happier, healthier, more successful?

In this episode, we go on a magical mystery tour of the self-esteem movement: where it came from, the surprising research findings and how self-esteem moved out of the realm of psychological research and into Infomercials and Oprah guests.

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Self-doubt is often characterised as an inner-critic or self-saboteur, but its SO much more sophisticated than that!

In this episode, I introduce the concept of The Protector: a characterisation of self-doubt that you can meet with creativity and compassion.

I share five key aspects of this part of your psyche including ideas for how to develop your relationship.

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A personal episode for me this week. I share how I have come to really own my preferences: from NOT camping to learning how to say a clean and boundaried 'no'.

Twas not always thus! I sometimes joke that I am a Recovering People Pleaser, but I don't want to make light of what has been a huge developmental process. To own our preferences we must make peace with the possibility that we will be disliked, we'll create tension and conflict, and we may be rejected.

But even though all these things have happened, it's still worth it to be me, in every context, all the time.

In this episode, I share how I uncovered the root causes of this aspect of my self-doubt, how healing these events was just the beginning.

 

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In this episode, I share why it's easy to get confused between your gut feeling and your self-doubt.

This is particularly tricky when we are learning something new!

Using Broadwell's model of competence we explore when your gut feeling is most reliable and how to tap into what it's telling you.

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It's episode 50 and two years since beginning the podcast! I thought it would be fun to revisit the very first episode: The Five P's of Self-doubt.

In the first episode, I (somewhat tentatively!) shared my framework for how self-doubt works - how it responds to psychological risk and how we use the Five P's to keep ourselves safe from that risk. In this episode, I share how my theory has evolved in the last few years.

I've been exploring the concept of psychological risk, looking at how this operates and the consequences of it. These findings have updated my original framework, added an additional 'P', and led to this episode. 

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If you have a vociferous inner-critic, this episode is for you!

Everything outside of you, is neutral. It just IS. How you experience the world, is how you interpret it. Usually, we don't just have an experience, we have a lot of thoughts, feelings, judgements about the experience!

In this episode, I share how most of us were never taught to be consciously aware of how we interpret neutral reality. Plus I share a practice for you try!

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The question I am asked The Most about my work is 'how can I feel more confident right now?' And in this episode, I'm answering the question!

Most of us want to feel confident so we can do and say what we want to do and say. We have some imaginary version of what would be possible if we had more confidence: who we would be, much more awesome our lives would be. But what most of us don’t realise is that confidence is a consequence of other things. It never comes first.

I'm sharing how I have come to understand the process by which confidence is cultivated, how I see this process as a pyramid.

There are five layers on top of each other - like building blocks - and confidence is the final block at the top of the pyramid.

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In this episode, we explore a concept from developmental psychology that our growth as adults is partly about increasing our capacity to understand, reflect on and respond to two key psychological states: sameness and difference.

I see the infinity loop as symbolic of this process that we are always moving through: one loop is sameness which represents safety, stability and peace; this is where we feel settled, where we integrate and consolidate what we learn out in the world. The other loop is difference, which offers us the stimulation of energy, complexity and newness that we need to grow.

We explore what happens within these states, how we get stuck and why self-doubt is integral to keep moving.

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Julie Parker is the Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy where she passionately trains and supports heart centred people to become life coaches. Julie has inspired thousands of people on stages all over the world and is the recipient of numerous leadership and women’s business awards.
 
 Julie is also the Co-Founder of Priestess Temple School and host of the top ranking Priestess Podcast.

We talk about growing up in rural Australia, the gift of being raised by excellent mothers, beginning work as a social worker, the mentors and teachers that shaped us, how our world is calling forward a new model of leadership that is cooperative, inclusive, vulnerable and imperfect. This is one of my favourite interviews!

 

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