Creating Midlife Calm: Coping Skills for Stress & Anxiety in Family, Work & Relationships

Have you ever talked through your anxiety and still felt unsettled afterward?
You’re not alone—many people turn to talking as a way to feel better, but it doesn’t always bring the calm you’re hoping for.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why anxiety naturally pushes you to talk—and why it can feel helpful in the moment
2. How talking can quietly reinforce anxiety by strengthening thoughts and stories
3. How to recognize when your way of talking is helping you feel calmer—or keeping you stuck

 Take 8 minutes to better understand your anxiety patterns—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What actually helps someone you love in midlife when they’re facing a life changing crisis and you don’t know what to do?
There is a steady, thoughtful way to show up that supports them without adding pressure or overwhelm.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. How simple, practical actions like meals and check-ins can ease stress without overwhelming the person or their family
2. Why asking permission and respecting boundaries strengthens trust and reduces anxiety for everyone involved
3. How to stay present and supportive without over-talking, over-helping, or pulling away

 Take 19 minutes to feel more confident in how you show up for someone you love—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

What if cancer isn’t just something to survive—but something that can reshape how your life?
There is a way to move through uncertainty with more clarity, self-trust, and even moments of real joy.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. How a crisis can lead to powerful clarity about what truly matters
2. Learn why boundaries and self-trust become essential during life’s hardest moments
3. Understand how slowing down and being present can transform anxiety into calm

 Take 19 minutes to reconnect with your inner clarity and build coping skills that truly support you—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Why does letting go feel so uncomfortable?
There is a meaningful way to understand this discomfort that can help you feel more calm, present, and at ease.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why letting go can initially increase anxiety and stress in midlife and why that’s actually part of the process
2. How your brain and body respond when you stop overplanning and begin practicing letting go
3. Three simple ways to begin letting go so you can feel more present, flexible, and less driven by anxiety

 Take 13 minutes to begin practicing letting go and feel more calm—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Are your plans helping you feel calm or quietly increasing your anxiety and stress?
Understanding your overplanning  can help you feel more grounded, present, and at ease.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why overplanning feels helpful in the moment but often increases anxiety and stress in midlife
2. How your brain and body use planning as a coping skill and why it doesn’t lead to lasting calm
3. The hidden drivers of overplanning and how awareness can begin to shift your experience

 Take 14 minutes to understand your planning patterns and begin feeling more calm—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Is springtime busyness increasing your anxiety and stress in midlife more than you expected?
There is a way to move through this season feeling more grounded, clear, and present without doing more.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. How to tell the difference between stress and anxiety so you can respond more effectively in midlife
2. How simplifying and working from calm can reduce stress during spring’s increased demands
3. How shifting from fear to values can ease anxiety and help you make clearer decisions

 Take 11 minutes to feel more grounded and clear as you navigate spring’s demands—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Are you moving through spring without actually letting it reduce your anxiety and stress in midlife?
There is a simple, natural way to use this season to feel calmer, more present, and more grounded without adding anything new to your life.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why spring naturally supports your nervous system but only if you experience it
2. How small shifts in your daily routine can become powerful coping skills for anxiety and stress in midlife
3. Why spring can both lift your mood and reveal where you may need more care

 Take 10 minutes to feel more present, calm, and connected to your life this spring—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

How do you stop seeking reassurance and begin trusting yourself when anxiety and stress feel overwhelming in midlife?
There is a steady and empowering way to build inner reassurance.
In this episode, you’ll discover:

1.     How learning to hold emotional discomfort strengthens your coping skills for anxiety and stress. 

2.     Two simple ways to hear your inner voice so you can make clearer, more confident decisions

3.     Why building inner reassurance helps you feel more steady and rely less on outside validation

🎧 Take 9 minutes to build inner reassurance and strengthen your coping skills—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

How can something that feels like a coping skill actually increase your anxiety and stress in midlife?
There is a calmer and more effective way to respond.
 In this episode, you’ll discover:

1.     Why reassurance can feel like a helpful coping skill but quietly increase anxiety and stress in midlife

2.     How the reassurance loop keeps anxiety going instead of resolving it

3.     What to begin noticing so you can shift toward coping skills that build real calm and self-trust
 🎧 Take 9 minutes to understand your reassurance patterns and begin building calmer coping skills—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support. 

Have you ever noticed the anxious, urgent voice in your mind full of “what ifs”?

There is a calm inner voice beneath that anxiety, and learning to recognize it can reduce stress.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. How to recognize the difference between anxious thinking and your inner voice
2. Why midlife is often when people begin hearing their inner voice more clearly
3. Two practical ways to reconnect with your inner voice and reduce anxiety

🎧 Take 10 minutes to better understand the voices in your mind and move toward more calm—you’re worth it.

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About the Host: 

MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.

Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.