What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're bringing back our most popular episode ever with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab of how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection, why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time. Plus we'll kick off the episode with a new intro recapping Yue's solo trip + the intimacy workshop she attended, and Julie's bday highs and lows. Plus BIG announcement coming next week!!!

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Would you rather stay in a mediocre relationship than to start over and be single? The thought of dating "from scratch" can be daunting but does it really justify staying in a relationship not meeting your needs? We're re-airing one of our most popular brunch talks, where we explore whether to try to make your current relationship better or cut bait – and how to reframe your mindset about what "starting over" even means.

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Are you sick of the ghosting, bread crumbing, flaking, zombie-ing, and the myriad of other bad dating behavior? Yup, us too. Yue is discussing her theory on why it seems to keep getting worse every year, but more importantly how we can all squash this type of behavior and head into a dating utopia.

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Have you ever wanted to get into the mind of men who act like they're interested only until you have sex? We're bringing up a spicy one from the archives of our most controversial guest to-date, Leon (if you're an OG listener, you probably remember this one!) who is here to deliver a PSA to women as a reformed f*ckboy who is now married and settled down. We're giving this a reboot to reflect on this current day, now that we've processed this "PSA" with updated takeaways to remind us that all guys aren't like this and how to not let the bad eggs get in the way of finding love. And for the good guys out there: this may give more understanding to experiences women may have with not so great men.

Trigger Warning: This episode shows a manipulative side of men which may be triggering if you've experienced this type of behavior yourself.

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We've been told from an early age, there's 'The One' – that person who is our best friend, our soulmate, the person we belong with. But is that even realistic? And how do we know if we are making the right choice? It can be tricky especially if we have had little relationship experience to benchmark it against. Join us for this week's 'Best of brunch talk' as we discuss if 'The One' even exists, signs you are with the right person, and how to distinguish between fear and if this person is actually a good fit for you or not

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To kick off this "off season" hot, we're bringing back an extremely relevant episode where we did a deep dive into Ashley Madison, the dating site exclusively for affairs. Maybe you caught the recent documentary on Netflix, but even not, we'll go into the data breach that caused millions of users' intimate data to be exposed, wrecking marriages and destroying lives. But more importantly, we'll hear directly from users of the site and staff members about why they turned to Ashley Madison in the first place and the psychology behind cheating. Buckle up, as this is a juicy one!

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It's hard not to imagine a future with someone especially when dating has been a struggle and you *finally* meet someone you like! But what happens when you get ahead of yourself and how does this impact the budding romance? We're re-airing one of our crowd favorites in our on-off season for the best of brunch talk. Join us as we talk about how to to give yourself a gut check if you're getting ahead of yourself, how even the best of us can fall into fantasy mode, and a surefire way to set expectations according to what you know.

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We're told that communication is everything in relationships....but what if there's another skill that is arguably more important??? Julie takes you through her experience of what she learned through couples therapy and how it's applied to not only her romantic relationships but also relationships with friends, family and coworkers too.

Related Episodes:

The Truth About Relationships

How To Have A Healthy Relationship

What's Your Communication Style

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Is dating the only way to find your person? Contrary to popular belief, we do think there are other ways that aren't the typical date sequence. Tune in for our season 18 finale as we discuss some viable alternative ways to get into a relationship, how to stay intentional even if you aren't "dating", and why whatever you do there's hope out there that your person is just around the corner!

Have no fear! We're not going anywhere. Stay tuned into our "off season" where we shake it up a bit with different formats, guest pods, and series. Subscribe so you don't miss anything!

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When you're at a place when you've learned to say no to things that don't feel right...how do you also strike that balance of saying yes without settling or sacrificing? For the last #brunchtalk of the season (don't worry, there will be more!), we're discussing how to assess your compatibility meter, the proper expectations of when you should "know" with someone, and why it's possible to hold certain boundaries while being open to the possibilities of love.

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