Dating Intentionally

Why is asking for our needs to be met so scary? And how can we be our own secure base? These are the two main questions I explored with guest Rikki Cloos, who wrote an amazing book called Anxious Hearts Guide. We talk about what's happening when our anxious attachment is activated, what to do when we feel anxious in early dating situations, what's normal to need in a relationship and how to create more emotional safety for ourselves in dating. Rikki also talks about how she ended up in a long-term relationship with an avoidant attacher, and how they're healing their attachment wounds together. I love this episode! 

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About Rikki Cloos

Rikki Cloos is a writer and content creator with a captivating authenticity and passion for attachment healing. Her book, The Anxious Hearts Guide - which has already sold thousands of copies in the United States and 16+ countries - is an approachable, accessible, and enlightening window into why we do the frustrating things that we do to chase love and how to rise above it.

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Don't you hate it when you meet someone amazing, but their kissing skills aren't up to par? Don't worry. There are ways to address this. In this episode, I'm sharing different ways to handle a "bad" kisser and how to make sure YOU aren't the one whose kissing skills need work. I also talk about how to ask for consent before kissing without making it awkward. 

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Do you feel like you have no idea how to flirt? Does flirting feel awkward? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, shares his best tips for getting started with flirting, even if you have no idea how to do it. We discuss the five dimensions of the flirt, the four different flirting styles and how to use body language in a subtle way to flirt in real life, without feeling awkward. Flirting is a skill you can learn! 

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About Benjamin:

Benjamin Camras is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious party goer, Benjamin now helps boy-crazy singles and daters flirt with more confidence and clarity. As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place of more focus, empowerment, and FUN.

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I get so many questions about what to do when the check comes at the end of the date. The easy answer is, that whoever asks is who pays. However, it goes so much deeper when it comes to heterosexual dating. In this episode, I deep dive into the reasons why women believe men should pay and why men are increasingly bitter about it. What we're experiencing now in dating is the growing pains of traditional courtship between men and women catching up with the progression towards gender equality (even though we're not fully there yet). Listen to hear what straight and queer folks had to say about the expectation of who pays on the first date.

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Do you feel like you have to wait until you lose weight to start dating? Are your feelings about your looks holding you back from getting on the apps or putting yourself out there? In this episode, I talk to Leah Kern, and anti-diet dietitian, about how to approach realistically improving your body image. Because you can't go from hating how you look to loving your body overnight. Leah shares so many helpful tips and insights for getting started on improving your body image so you can date with more confidence. 

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About Leah Kern:

Leah Kern is an Anti-Diet Dietitian and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor who helps truth-seekers heal their relationships with food and body to unlock a more aligned and fulfilling life.

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We need to stop chasing sparks in dating! Just because you don't feel a spark does not mean that connection is doomed. In this episode, I talk about what the spark is and what it isn't, and why we feel attracted to some people and not others. I focus heavily on tips for building chemistry in early dating, but with the caveat that chemistry alone can't carry a long-term relationship. That's where compatibility comes in. 

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In this episode, I talk to veteran dating expert Evan Marc Katz about all things early dating! We get into why your confidence is the first thing to work on in your dating journey, tips for moving on from a past relationship you’re still stuck on and why you might be having a hard time finding men you actually like. I also had Evan give his take on one of my Instagram posts which he kindly disagreed with so it was fun to get into that more and hear his point of view.

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More about Evan:

Billed as a “personal trainer for smart, strong, successful women,” dating coach Evan Marc Katz has been helping singles since 2003. He is the author of four books and has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including Today, the New York Times, and CNN. Since 2015, Evan’s blog has over 35 million readers, his podcast has over 2 million downloads and 13,000 women have graduated from Love U, his six-month video course that helps women understand men and find love. Evan is very happily married and lives in Los Angeles with his wife and their two children. 

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On this episode of Dating Intentionally, you'll hear our engagement story (including a real-life nightmare scenario) from my fiance, Johnny, and how he selected a ring for me! I also talk about why I proposed back to him and how I chose a ring for him as well. At the top of the episode, you'll hear a mini tangent about Valentine's Day and the importance of communicating your expectations around dates and gifts. 

Where Johnny got my ring: Adiamor

Where I got his ring: Richter Scale Rings

Johnny's fave resource for diamond research: stonelago.com

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Yes, you can work on healing your attachment wounds even if you're not in a relationship. I got to talk to Julie Menanno about her new book, Secure Love, and how to apply its insights even if you're single. Julie and I cover steps to healing attachment if you don't work with a therapist and how to tune into your body to figure out what you need when you feel anxious, and what's at the root of your emotions. We also talk about spotting the negative cycle in early dating, the healthy way to navigate attachment in dating (no, it's not just avoiding avoidantly attached folks) and how to build a secure bond from the start. 

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Are you following your intuition and trusting your gut feelings, or are you self-sabotaging? In this episode, I talk about why we self-sabotage and how it's different than trusting your gut. I get into eight different ways we get in our own way and tips for tapping into your intuition more. I'm also sharing a very exciting update on my relationship! 

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