Dear Midlife...

We've heard of physical fitness....and we've heard of physical therapy. But have you ever heard of mental fitness? You may believe mental fitness is about getting your brain in shape. Is there a way I can lift mental weights? Maybe brain squats? Or Benchpress your beliefs? Can you picture a little sweat band around your brain as it strains itself while doing mental jumping jacks? While a fun image to consider, that's not exactly what we're talking about here. Mental fitness is an exercise that our guest today, Jen Uschold, uses to shift our brains from the ruminating negative side (what she calls the saboteurs that "live" in our brain) to the positive, creative, problem solving side (which she calls our Sage Powers) 

Early in her career, Jen was drawn to helping others by empowering them to help themselves. As a physical therapist, she was drawn to the idea of not only health coaching, but pain science and neuroscience education. Today, she weaves together these complementary disciplines within the practice of Mental Fitness which uses the power of PQ exercises and preparation-choice-repetition techniques to quiet the thoughts that can sabotage or hijack your thinking and, instead, helps her clients draw on their sage powers to navigate the challenges of life.

Jen had been using these techniques to help people who have been living with chronic pain. However, she found the combined techniques associated with physical therapy, pain neuroscience education and wellness coaching work in so many walks of life and now focuses on using these techniques with women going through divorce and making BIG life transitions using an app driven program and she's willing to give Dear Midlife listeners a 20% discount!! So, if any of you out there need support, you can claim your discount by going to THIS SITE and using checkout code dearmidlife20.

In today's episode, Jen teaches us:  

1. The right side of our brain contains our Sage Powers and the Left Side the saboteurs. The Saboteurs are your greatest strengths in and over exaggerated state. We can use PQ exercises to calm the Saboteurs.
2. When your nervous system is activated and your anger and frustration is rising, imagine the other person is a child you are speaking to. Have the conversation from a place of recognition that the other party is doing the best they can with what they know and meet them there with compassion.
3. Play the "yes and...." game as a way to generate creative ideas and solutions. Always look for at least 10% of truth in what the other party says and then build on that!
4. All pain is real, but your brain can choose and/or prioritize when and how you feel pain. Pain can be located in the tissue or can be psychological and is defined with a bio psycho social model. But we are all one system and pain contains all three.
5. Exercise is one of the most important ways to alleviate pain. It calms the nerves

To find more of Jen:

Website | iriseforme.com 

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LinkedIn | jenuscholdpt

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Have any of you ever heard of or tried "tapping"? We all know Shelby has a theater background and loves her "jazz hands" but, we're not talking about dancing bur, rather, the therapeutic modality of tapping, which is just ONE Of the tools our guest today, Claudia Braun, uses to help women tap into knowing and strengthening their inner selves.

You see...Claudia is a coach for women who are great at taking care of others, but are not good at taking care of themselves. Sound familiar?!? Raise your hand if you can relate. Today, Claudia discusses the importance of going within to listen to our own guidance and spiritual connection to uplevel our thinking, experience a mindset that allows us to own our YES AND our NO so we can live a life we love. 

AND when we can do THAT, we can LET GO! Let go of the guilt, obligations and expectations that have kept us all living a limited life, based on others expectations and INSTEAD, live a life of CHOICE!  OUR choice!

Claudia has over 25 years of experience in holistic wellness, and is certified in holistic coaching and the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), she's a yoga instructor and speaks at women’s events has been keynote for several events & national conferences, and recently hosted the Healing summit in which she helps women just like us learn to PRIORITIZE ourselves and our emotional, spiritual and physical wellbeing. And we know for sure that being well is a decision.

In this episode, Claudia teaches us:  

1. Einstein says, "the mind that created the problem, cannot fix the problem". The thinking that got you to the current place in life where you may be feeling stuck, will (likely) not get you through to the next stage in life. Sometimes we need another perspective to help us move forward and get unstuck.
2. It is an internal game, not an external game. We often strive to change the external circumstances and still feel stuck. We need to realize that what we are thinking is creating our results and until we shift our thinking, we'll continue to get the same outcomes.
3. Tapping is a technique that is used to change neurological patterning so you can release old stories. It works by tapping on some primary nerve centers/chakras while saying a mantra such as (starting with the negative thought) I know that this job is depleting me, but even though that feels true, I love, accept and appreciate myself (and ending with the new thought).
4. When you are in a fear state, you are operating from a less intelligent state. No one makes good decisions in fear. 3 stages to solve a problem: awareness, acceptance, action. it starts with simply noticing a repetitive, negative thought. If we don't bring it to the light, it cannot be healed.
5. We place a lot of emphasis on external wants and desires when we vision our future. Instead, we need to turn our attention inward and listen to what really want. We need to strengthen our inner selves so much that no one else (not society, family or old inner narratives) has power over us.

To find more of Claudia:

Website | claudia-braun.com

Facebook | @Claudia Braun

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We don't know about you, but WE still have a hint of a little voice in the very back of our heads that whisper to us that we'll never be enough. not pretty enough, not smart enough, not wealthy enough, not good enough. We firmly believe these are the whispers that hold most of us back in life. What does the voice in you head tell you? 

You know, this podcast has been so therapeutic because it has helped us to overcome a lot of the negative narratives that live inside of us. But, it was a bold move birth this baby out into the world. And in just THAT action alone, I hope we've proven to ourselves that we ARE capable...and we ARE good enough!!

We HAVE felt that sense of accomplishment and with each episode and when we hear feedback from our listeners, it only validates that more and demonstrates that, not only are we capable, but that we are making an IMPACT and THAT is truly important to both of us.

And today, we share with you the voice of Alex Falteceni, who also had a little girl inside her telling her that she had nothing to offer. That her voice wasn't worth hearing. But, you know what...? She came onto the Dear Midlife podcast and shared with us her wisdom on how bold moves JUST LIKE THESE can help us heal the childhood wounds from our past. 

Alex uses past life regression, child regression therapy, and harmonic sound vibration healing to work primarily with those that have had some sort of trauma in their life, where the trauma exists deep within the cells resulting in the brain acting in a certain way. It's all about identifying the trauma where it came from, what age, who put it there, and what was the story. Working through our shadow to release that energy or emotion and the establish a new mindset. 

Baby Girl...raise your hand if you have a little voice inside of your head telling you you're not enough??? We all have a childhood wounds that occurred early in our development that shaped the way we see ourselves. Alex teaches us how to go back that little girl, to that time when that seed was planted and give love and attention to that inner child so she can close the open loop and finally let that story go and find peace with ourselves.

In this episode, Alex teaches us:

1. We all have a "shadow" or negative narrative that we carry around with us from childhood. One possible example could be that I'll never be good enough. Or, my voice isn't worthy of being heard. If we can identify the thread to our story in the past and revisit the moment when that seed was planted as a child, we can close that loop in a different way and start to heal.
2. The brain internalizes the stories it hears over and over again. THAT is why we need to speak into ourselves positive affirmations on a daily basis and continue to repeat these until the brain internalizes them.
3. To move through this process, first, recognize and name the emotion (is it anger? is it sadness? is it frustration?) Then ask why are you feeling this way? Now use breath work to acknowledge the emotion and imagine the emotion pushing out of your body.
4. One way to work through pain and hurt from present or past is to write a forgiveness letter to the person who has hurt you.
5. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We all have a story. We ALL are working on ourselves. We all are trying to get unstuck. We all face challenges. BUT, you do NOT have to go it alone. There is strength in vulnerability and in that space, you can find your tribe.

To find more of Alexandra:

Website | divinereconnections.com

Facebook | @divinereconnections

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Let's do a little exercise...just pause for a moment...take a deep breath....allow your chest to rise and your lungs to fill. Then hold the bread at the top for 4 seconds....then slowly blow the breath out pushing all the air out of your lungs. Now say "I can feel the connection to my inner peace" and do the exercise once more..."I can feel the connection to my inner peace".

How are you feeling in this very moment? Perhaps, a sense of calm? WOW! Why don't we do more of that!?!? LOL  As a matter of fact, our guest today Holly Zajur, did just that as she was logging into our zoom interview. It maybe caused her to be "late" to the interview by 30 seconds or so, but we could feel her calm presence within this interview. Think of what an impact it could have on your daily life if you just did that prior to logging into every zoom meeting you have...

And we have a LOT of damn Zoom meetings! lol And I don't know about you, but I could use a little more calm...a little more mindfulness in MY life and Holly is here to remind us of the power of mindfulness.  

Holly is a wellness educator, entrepreneur, and writer, whose work is centered around empowering others with the tools to live their most authentic lives. She loves speaking to the power of mindfulness, yoga, and compassion as tools for supporting mental health and well-being.

She also hosts a podcast, How the Wise One Grows in which every week, she dives into conversations that explore mindfulness, spirituality, wellness, and more to help people tap into their inner wisdom.

In this episode, Holly reminds us of a quote from Shin Zin Yung who says "In Life, suffering is pain times resistance." Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. You will suffer to the degree with which you resist." You have to be with what already IS (i.e. who you are today all the good, bad and the ugly) to change it. And THAT my beautiful listener...is mindfulness. Stop resisting.

In this episode, Holly reminds us: 

1. Mindfulness has many definitions. It is an awareness of and a wise relationship with what we are sensing, experiencing and feeling. It is NOT eliminating the feelings of stress and anxiety. But, it's taking the time to know ourselves. 
2. Part of mindfulness is about giving yourself compassion in which you feel lost and confused because, in those moments, are the moments when you find yourself.
3. Mindfulness can be listening to your body and taking aligned action, Don't overthink it. There's no doing it "wrong"...there is just the doing.
4. When you're feeling a bit lost, don't fear that state of mind, instead, celebrate it. It means you're not done growing yet.
5. When negative feelings and parts of you bubble up, get curious and ask what you need in the moment. Perhaps this part of you is trying to raise awareness that you are overwhelmed and there are boundaries you need to put into place to protect yourself from the overwhelm.

You can find more of Holly at: 

IG: @hollyzajur  @howthewiseonegrows

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WE...ARE...SOOO....TIRED. Do you feel it? We have so much SHIT going on at work...then we have no energy to manage our emotions and then say ALL the things that we don't want to say to people because we have no filter and then feel like such a bitch, but we're not a bitches (unless we WANT to be), but we DON'T want to be thought of as  bitches with our colleagues because we love them but, we are the coach, the mentor, the leader and we are all learning new habits and sometimes we're so tired we just don't have the energy or the patience to deal. 

We all started to hustle when we were young. Shelby had a part-time job at the age of 12! Many of us worked our way through college or High School and hustled in those very first jobs because we felt like we had to prove ourselves. Some of us hustle to meet important deadlines and client demands. Some of us work multiple jobs to keep the lights on and food on the table. Then some of us started and worked to "prove ourselves" to our male counterparts that we can juggle ALL the balls...childbirth, being a parent, and a dedicated employee. And now....now, that we're more or less 50--we're just tired. Too tired to hustle any more. 

Amanda Ortega ...HELP US PLEASE!! Our guest today, is an author, speaker, and certified professional coach. Her mission is to help high achievers (like us) prevent burnout by cultivating a healthy approach to success.

Her new book, Inward to Upward: Discover your Blueprint for True Success and Escape the Toxic Success Trap Forever, offers a guidebook for ambitious professionals to redefine success for themselves and achieve greater calm, balance, and fulfillment in their lives. 

Amanda's mission is to change the way we view our self worth and the collective definition of success in our society. In our episode today, she raises awareness of our state of chronic stress and our underlying belief that stress is the fuel behind our success. Guess what..our level of stress is NOT helping us to be more successful! 

No it is not.  It's actually burning us out and making us sick.We're not the only ambitious high achievers out there who are unhappy. So, why do we call this success? Our guest's definition of the "toxic-success trap" is cycles of achievement in which we pursue external goals at the expense of our wellbeing. As we advance in our careers, the idea of "performance" can pull us out of alignment with our true selves and damage our sense of innate self worth. Amanda wants to help people break free of that cycle.

SO....Amanda! TEACH US how to return to our authentic Self (Capital S) and separate ourselves from the external performance and fucking dog and pony show we pull off every day.We're ready to STOP defining success transactionally and honor the fact that we are so much more than what we produce!!

In this episode, Amanda teaches us: 

1. The "success trap" isn't a place, but rather a mindset and an approach to success that isn't sustainable. The definition includes a perception that stress is necessary for success and that current day suffering is a trade off for future happiness.
2. Trust that "calm presence" can help you enjoy your life more and you can be more successful.
3. Life should NOT be stress, stress, stress....pocket of calm. It SHOULD be calm, calm, calm...pocket of stress. You body is equipped to deal with pockets of stress, but burn out happens when your body faces chronic stress daily.
4. Learn to check in with your body and notice what it is telling you...are your shoulders hunched, do you have a pit in your stomach? This is your body in stress. Learn to recognize it and ask yourself if this level of stress is serving you right now and if you're operating from your "fear center". Then, downshift into a more neutral space by breathing or taking a short walk.
5. When you feel your body move into stress, get curious. Use what you notice as (potential) triggers as data points. Then set up "experiments" (not goals) to put to practice your new theories about how you can show up differently and prove the world won't fall apart.

You can find Amanda at:

Website | beyondbalancecoaching.com

Instagram | @beyondbalance_coach

Inward to Upward: Discover your Blueprint for True Success and Escape the Toxic Success Trap Forever

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Whhooo girl! We jump straight into this conversation with our guest Susan Bratton. We were off to the races faster than we could consider what sex would be like if Barbie were in charge instead of Ken! We loved this no holds barred conversation with Susan. Uh can you say "Orgy dome"?!  

If you want to know what happens IN the orgy dome, you'll have to tune into our stimulating conversation (pun intended) with Susan Bratton, who is a trusted intimacy advisor to millions and sexual wellness expert. As the co-founder of both Personal Life Media and The20, she’s an authority in bedroom techniques and communication skills as well as organic supplements and non-invasive treatments that improve vitality for both men and women.

Susan stands firm in the conviction that passion is ageless. However, few things bring lovemaking to a screeching halt faster than the inability to…show up, shall we say. Susan's superpower is her courage. She takes a lionhearted stand for our human right to pleasurable connection. And she has the willingness to get nerdy about science/anatomy and very detailed about lovemaking skills so everyone can learn to achieve the pleasure they deserve. She has been featured in the New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show; and she makes frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC.

In this episode, Susan teaches us: 

1. Getting to know what your partner values and honoring that by giving the other person what they need can help you feel like you're in the most perfect relationship. And when you are single and know your values, these can be a litmus test for those you meet and help you determine who you invite into your life..
2. Try radical honesty with your partner. While it is scary, it is really one path to full and complete authenticity and often reveals your own insecurities and shortcomings so that you can examine those and make more conscious decisions about how you want to show up in the world.
3. People who are not honest with themselves, who don't have boundaries, who don't know what they want are impossible to love because you don't every really get beneath the surface to actually know the REAL person
4. True orgasmic pleasure takes practice! Adopt a "research partner" on which you can practice both delivering and receiving pleasure.
5. Practice "big clit energy". There are a variety of tools available to help you learn to expand your personal pleasure within your zone of arousal to extend and evolve your orgasmic pleasure.

Again, Susan is an advocate for sexual wellness. She briefly mentions in the show her affiliation with GAINsWave and FemiWave and we wanted to include these resources if you need help enjoying sex more. Most ED and vaginal rejuvenation treatments are invasive and painful or hinge upon pricey pharmaceutical solutions–and they don’t address the root cause of the condition. GAINSWave, on the other hand, is all-natural, completely non-invasive, and uses high-frequency shockwaves to enhance male function, performance, and overall health. For women, FemiWave uses low-intensity sound waves to restore sensation and natural lubrication. Susan can speak to the effectiveness of both In addition, take advantage of the natural wellness products by Foria for intimacy enhancement and menstrual relief.

Website | Susanbratton.com

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Have you ever heard of "Extreme" self-care? And...no. Extreme self-care is not jumping out of a plane into a hot tub where a sexy massage therapist is waiting you, or riding backwards on a motorcycle while painting my toes. No...it's something WAY more dangerous like NOT answering your cell phone or even scarier...turning it OFF completely and plugging it in to charge in the next room! Or NOT spending time with people who don't fill your bucket or love and treat you the way you deserve to be treated (and that includes family).

I know you're thinking, "what the hell?!?!" You'd rather jump out of a plane than not answer your cell phone!! LOL Just kidding. Truth is, we could all do with a little EXTREME self-care and our guest today, Steph Palermo, reminds us that when we take care of our own needs first we are then able to show up as our most authentic self for ourselves and others.

Steph is a spitfire and grew up in the Boston area in a Sicilian-American household. Her Sicilian heritage has strongly shaped her personal and professional life. A congenital limb difference and numerous spiritual gifts taught her from a young age about overcoming difficulty and navigating life’s challenges. These factors instilled in her a level of tenacity that has proven to be a key part of her personality.

When she got divorced, her lawyer told her she needed a job. Steph had spent twenty-five years raising her children and hadn’t had a job outside the home in a long time! So she decided to take what she loved and made it a business called "Just Steph" and made a fresh start as a “second-lifer.”

Today, she calls herself and intuitive should guide and combines her natural and supernatural gifts of empathy, encouragement, prophecy, healing, and discernment, to name a few, to guide clients and audiences toward their own soul’s path, purpose, and personal growth. She see clearly into the hearts and emotions of others. Her goal has always been to heal and guide seekers of a more meaningful existence to the life of their dreams.

In today's episode, Steph teaches us: 

1. You cannot grow or expand unless you are living authentically.
2. Your authentic self is one that is aligned, that feels good and is happy. Our authentic state of being is one of physical health and you're not healthy unless you're also emotionally healthy.
3. It takes time to see and recognize our own self-value. One of the best ways to get there is through extreme self-care.
4. Extreme self-care is saying yes to those activities that feed your soul, it's saying no to what doesn't serve you (or serve you right now), it's turning off your phone, investing in yourself and our future, and understanding without freedom there is no love
5. Life doesn't happen to us. It happens as a result of the choices we make. In the end, we have no one to blame for our choices but ourselves. And if we want to rewrite our story, guess who is writing it? we are!

You can find more of Steph at:

Website | juststeph.com

The Just Steph® Show: Mondays 8-10 pm WATD 95.9 FM

Here is the link to a free download: https://learn.juststeph.com/JustStephTheOnlyWayisUp

Latest Book: It's not personal, Sonny. It's business. How to run your family, life and business like a Sicilian

It is also OUR goal to help guide other "second-lifers" towards their purpose and passion through the expertise of our guest and our community. We are there...Verging on the edge of our second life. We want to link arms with you as we navigate the messy middle together as we weather hot flashes, midlife dating, empty nesting, career changes and finding ourselves. We want you to join us on this journey by checking out our website at Dearmidlife.com and following us on Facebook and Instagram @dearmidlife.

We need to queue Justin Timberlake's "Bringing Sexy Back" as we introduce our next guest, Kim Coffin. So, how is Kim Bringing Sexy Back? She is THE REAL DEAL!! She specializes in Sexuality, Tantric Sex and Relationship Transformation and in this episode she shares with us just a few of the tools we can use to unleash our sexual confidence and unlock profound new levels of self-love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with yourself - and in your relationships!

This woman is a certified Trauma Informed, Somatic (body-based) Empowerment, Sex, Love & Relationship Teacher, Speaker {soon to be Author} & Coach, graduate of Layla Martin’s Institute of Integrated Tantric Sexuality, and founder of "Get Your Sexy Back".

In this episode, Kim shares with us some of her methods for creating deep trust and safety in your body and mind, and she can show you how to RECONNECT to your body, ACTIVATE your turn-on, HEAL heartbreak & shame, and RECLAIM your true SEXY self so that you can fully step into your UNAPOLOGETIC POWER!

And honey! You KNOW we are ALL about unapologetic power!! Raise your hand if you've been a victim of sexual assault? Trauma? Betrayal? Burnout? We KNOW you each have experienced at least one, if not more than one of these. Kim helps us identify where these experiences have gotten "stuck" in our bodies and helps us to heal so you can step back into the drivers seat and go after the life they desire by reconnecting to their innate inner wisdom.

Her own story and experience of healing is one we call all relate to. She's survived sexual assault and trauma, betrayal, 3 traumatic births (now teens/adults) and postpartum periods, adrenal fatigue, and total burnout. She remained self-employed the entire time (25+ years) and she's here to share with us how she overcame it all and now serves others to do the same. 

In this episode, Kim teaches us:

1. Our bodies hold the keys to what we want and don't want. However, most of us are living "in our heads" and not following what our bodies are telling us what we desire, what we trust or what is aligned for us. We need to heal to be comfortable to feel, sense and trust our bodies.
2. De-armoring is a practice that releases the sexual or other trauma that we are holding in our body. In this practice we check-in with our bodies and gently massage our bodies and check in by exploring what's going on where we feel these tensions
3. Keep a mirror with you and 3x a day look yourself in the mirror and wink at yourself. It will start to shift your thinking about you.
4. Most women have experienced some kind of sexual trauma at some point in life. It may not have come in the form of an assault It may just be some degree of shame that we've been made to feel about our bodies and therein comes the need to heal that trauma. Somatic, or body-based, work can help us heal these traumas.
5. If we don't do the work to heal our trauma, it can especially take its toll on women later in life and perimenopause. Trauma can manifest itself in more impactful symptoms, depression, hot flashes, back, and joint and muscle pain. And...your body will keep tapping until you're able to come home to heal your traumas and come home to yourself.

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Do you believe in reincarnation?  Cue the Indigo Girls... "And now you had to bring up reincarnation over a coupla beers the other night..."  You know, we're not sure. We've both been exposed to numerous stories that make reincarnation feel very real.

To help us ponder the above question, we welcome our guest Corbie Mitlied who really brings to life (pun intended) the idea of reincarnation as an intuitive counselor. She has made her own path, rather than take the one cut out for her by others. The path wasn’t easy and consists of t two marriages, which didn’t last, a constant search for the "Partner Who Understood", a succession of jobs, and a series of spiritual paths. Then, out of the blue, she got breast cancer...THREE times.

Life became a roller coaster with no brakes, asking Corbie to survive divorce, abuse, poverty and life-threatening illness. But through all of this, she learned the value of the "Examined Life", in which she ask herself...what does this mean and what am I meant to learn from this?

In today's episode, Corbie teaches us the three important questions to examine our lives and explore our purpose here on this earth. What are we meant to do and learn? How can we meet challenges and always ask the next question and face each new situation with strength, courage and humor. Corbie sees it as her job as an intuitive counselor, inspirational speaker, author, breast cancer survivor to give her clients the tools and courage to deal with any situation.

She believes that everything else is free will. So, today Corbie reminds us that we can do what she does! What will YOU do? We want you to follow us in our FB group and leave us a review so we can continue to connect like minded women in midlife together because no one should have to navigate this crazy shit show alone! lol

In this episode, Corbie teaches us:

1. Find Karma is 5 things: healing, service, contrast, unbalanced energy and healing of beliefs. The more we know ourselves and our strengths, the more we'll keep when we pass over into our next life.
2. Live the examined life by asking ourselves: what can I learn from this and how can I teach with it ...then consider what is the next thing!
3. Embrace YOU! There's more to go in life and we are more than just a part of our story that took place in our history. Who are you now? You are more than just the contest winner, the divorce, the car accident, the cancer survivor, the miscarriage,
4. Find your sentence of passion...It's not the JOB. Your sentence of passion is the thing that, when you roll up to the pearly gates, hair on fire and fumes in the tank you can say, "I did this!" It's the moments where you were living in your bliss.
5. Ask yourself the 3 most important questions in the world: What am I ____ about? (fill in the blank with your feeling or emotion...angry, sad, confused, frustrated, etc.) Why am I _____ about that? What would happen if I stopped being ____ about that?

You can find Corbie at:

Website | corbiemitleid.com

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Facebook | firethroughspirit

Patreon | corbiemitleid

Instagram | @corbie_mitleid

Medium: https://corbiemitleid.medium.com

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So, today I was in the grocery store and couldn't help but notice that Halloween decorations are already on display. I swear! it seems like big box retailers are pushing consumers towards the holidays sooner than ever before!

Then Trinity noticed that Starbucks is making a huge deal about bringing in Pumpkin Spice back into their stores on August 24th! We've started to feel like we can't even enjoy summer because we're being pushed immediately to Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas on the timescale of the big box retailers!. Next year they will start putting that shit out in June instead of August! we can't tell you the anxiety that creates in our friggen souls! It makes us feel like we're running behind. Oh shit, I haven't even bought my turkey yet...bitch it is the beginning of SEPTEMBER!

Our guests today, Natascha Corrigan and Alegre Ramos are badass productivity bitches! They help us to bring more JOY into our lives and holidays. They remind us that we are in control of our holidays and the amount of joy we experience. With a little "pre-party planning" we CAN have a joyful holiday season.

You may remember these ladies! We interviewed them in episode 43! Now, We are bringing them back in celebration of the release of their new book "Rock Your Holidays", which came out September 8th. In this book, Natascha and Alegre remind us to keep the "Fun in the Fun", take our control of the holidays back and do what works for US this holiday season so we can turn down the noise and turn up the joy and the jingle in the way that really matters!

Not only do Natascha and Alegre share with us amazing tips to rock our holiday season but, also, provide tips and tricks that can be applied universally across your life and they show us how they can be applied in practical ways!

 In this episode, our girls teach us: 

1. Make small course corrections along the way as you start to adopt a new habit. These little adjustments can keep you more in alignment of your goal and prevent you from steering too far off path.
2. Enlist a friend! Doing what may otherwise be tedious tasks with a friend makes it that much more fun and friends can help you see what you can't....they can help point out what is/isn't important and your wins and opportunities for improvement that support small course corrects.
3. List all of the possible things you might want to do this holiday season and give them a rating on a scale from 1-5 and remove those activities that are not the highest priority!
4. Define what intention you want to carry into this holiday season. Is it joy? Is it peace and calm? Define what you want the holiday to feel like and then use that as your litmus or touchstone for all activities by asking yourself is this activity in alignment with my holiday intention.
5. Keep fun FUN!!

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