November 17, 2025

Dismissive Avoidant & Fearful Avoidant Fights - THIS ONE THING Changes Everything

12 minutes

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When a Fearful Avoidant and a Dismissive Avoidant enter conflict, the emotional fallout can feel explosive, confusing, and deeply painful. One partner feels overwhelmed and unheard, while the other shuts down and retreats — and neither realizes what’s actually happening beneath the surface.

In this mini masterclass, Thais Gibson breaks down the hidden dynamics driving Fearful Avoidant–Dismissive Avoidant conflicts, the subconscious wounds fueling these reactions, and why these cycles repeat until you learn to see them differently. You’ll finally understand what each partner is experiencing internally, and what has to shift to break the pattern for good.

You’ll learn:

✅ The core wounds that shape Fearful Avoidant and Dismissive Avoidant conflict

✅ Why Fearful Avoidants over-give, under-receive, and burn out emotionally

✅ How covert contracts lead to resentment and misinterpretation

✅ The Dismissive Avoidant perspective: why criticism triggers their deepest shame wounds

✅ What each partner actually feels but doesn’t say during conflict

✅ How miscommunication fuels the pursuit-and-withdrawal cycle

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 – The Fearful Avoidant & Dismissive Avoidant Relationship Cycle

02:13 – Fearful Avoidants Tend to Over-give and Over-deliver in Relationships

02:56 – Fearful Avoidants & Covert Contracts

04:26 – Black Friday: Somatic Processing Course Promo

05:12 – Core Wounds of the Fearful Avoidant

05:47 – Core Wounds of the Dismissive Avoidant

06:59 – Miscommunication Between the Two

09:12 – Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Shutdowns

10:29 – If You Don’t Communicate in a Healthy Way, Your Words Will Fall on Deaf Ears.

11:35 – The Next Mini Masterclass

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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