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Do the Hard Thing First: Why You're Not Lazy, You're Avoiding a Feeling


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Do the hard thing first: why you're not lazy, you're avoiding a feeling. The hardest part of any task isn't the middle. It's the start. That's the wall. I’m a chronic task avoider, and in this episode I’m sharing my tried and tested ADHD guide to beating procrastination and the avoidance loop.

This episode is for you if:

  • You'll dread one tiny email and somehow clean the whole house to avoid it
  • You've called yourself lazy your whole life despite having a full, busy, can't-sit-still life
  • You've tried every new planner and schedule and still can't make yourself start

Here's what I break down in this episode:

  • Procrastination is emotion management, not time management: why you're avoiding the feeling, not the task
  • The avoidance loop: how "being busy" is actually how you dodge the thing that matters
  • Open tabs: why unfinished tasks drain your battery all day (the 1920s study)
  • Do the hard thing first: how to beat your own excuses to the door
  • Three hacks to start: the doable start, name the feeling, and the 2-minute timer

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I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan. We’ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.

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