March 17, 2024

E201 - Codependency & Complex Trauma in HSP/SPS (and the Shocking Link to Narcissism)

35 minutes

Codependent people think, they could solve their emotional problems through love, validation and masking while being in a relationship.

But the truth is, emotional independence actually is achieved through self-love, clear boundaries and expressing emotions and needs.

In today’s episode you will understand:

What codependency actually is

How it is connected with complex trauma

Which shocking role narcissists play in that connection

And why in particular highly sensitive people are affected by it

► Links and Resources:

Codependency definition: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency

Tim Fletcher on codependency: https://youtu.be/yesXC_ibRKE?si=r4JO6JGdscfuJU0c

Infatuation Episode: https://youtu.be/Uk27yW1ZXMA?si=Ht_HBu-4LpN_SAO4

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► Episode Timestamps:

0:00 Overview

1:33 What is Codependency?

4:25 What is Complex Trauma?

5:16 Codependency in Relationships

9:29 Narcissism in Complex Trauma

11:02 High Sensitivity/Neurodivergence and Narcissism

14:20 What Happens, if You Don't Break the Codependent Cycle?

20:01 Masking, Hiding & Overadapting in Codependent Relationships

21:50 Alert Radar: Hypervigilance

23:22 Complex Trauma and Toxic Shame & Guilt

28:20 Solutions

30:00 Emotional Independence in Relationships

33:57 Final Thoughts

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► Book List *Ad-Links

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► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating.

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