Pillow Talks

E211: Ask A Sex Therapist: Penis Pumps, Pegging, + Postpartum Sex


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Ask a sex therapist is back!


Have you ever Googled something about sex and then immediately deleted your search history? 🥵


In this week’s episode, Vanessa (a sex therapist with 20+ years of experience) and Xander (her ever-curious, regular dude husband) answer your most personal, pressing, wait-am-I-the-only-one? questions about sex, intimacy, and everything in between.

Here’s what we’re diving into:

  • Is it weird if my partner and I don’t kiss during sex? (Pretty Woman, anyone?)

  • What exactly is pegging?

  • Is it normal for other things to be “better than sex”?

  • Can using a penis pump have consequences?

  • Should you get a vasectomy? (Xander’s in the club!)

  • Postpartum sex — what are men really thinking?

  • Can responsive/spontaneous desire be taught? Like can you switch your type?


    ❤️ Ready to go deeper?

    Your questions deserve more than just a quick answer. Inside our monthly membership Deeper, we help you actually take the next step — with expert-designed tools, guided content, live sessions with us, and unlimited access to Vanessa AI (your 24/7 virtual sex and relationship coach).

    🎉 Podcast listeners get 25% off your first month! Use the code PILLOW at checkout right here 👉🏻 https://vmtherapy.com/deeper


    Resources Mentioned:

    Ultimate Foreplay Guides 👉🏻 https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay

    Ultimate Sex Guides  👉🏻 https://buy.vmtherapy.com/ultimate-sex-guide?ref=podcast-211&utm_term=podcast-211

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