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The dismissive, avoidant attachment style is by far the type which is most often blamed for causing relationship issues.

At the same time, avoidantly attached people are also the ones who are misunderstood the most. - By others and by themselves.

Therefore, today we will unfold 10 signs of a dismissive avoidant attachment style -

And by doing so, also revealing some very significant blindspots of avoidantly attached people.

I am sure you will feel exposed more and more as we go through the signs.

► Links and Resources:

CPTSD & The 4 Attachment Styles:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=qJZ3Edj8pl3kdV39

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper:https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

Schema-Theory:https://www.schematherapy.com/id73.htm

Avoidant Attachment & Schema Theory Paper:https://bmcpsychology.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40359-023-01172-9

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Book *Ad:https://amzn.to/4aAk3y4

Gender Differences & Attachment:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9312160/

Attachment Style Quiz:https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/

Attachment Styles Series:

Episode 1/8: Avoidant Attachment Style: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18

Episode 2/8: Working Through Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/FpNODQ7xYJg

Episode 3/8: Anxious Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY

Episode 4/8: Working Through Anxious Attachment: https://youtu.be/lbLG9432BkY

Episode 5/8: Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8

Episode 6/8: Working Through Fearful Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/leT0-kFOSR0

Episode 7/8: Secure Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/YXdW4mwwogo

Episode 8/8: Becoming Securely Attached: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:24 Series Overview

02:55 How Does Having An Avoidant Attachment Style Feel Like?

06:37 Sign 1: For You, Love Means, Not Demanding Someone

08:42 Sign 2: You Don’t Understand What It Means To Be Vulnerable

10:15 Sign 3: You Detach When Things Get Too Emotional

11:57 Sign 4: Radical Personal Responsibility Is One Of Your Core Values

15:22 Sign 5: You Downplay Conflict And Avoid Confrontation

18:30 Sign 6: Intimate Relationships Create Constant Pressure

20:58 Sign 7: You Are Very Protective Around Your Own Life Decisions, While Your Relationships Are Negotiable

23:40 Sign 8: You Can Meet Your Partners Practical Needs, But Not Their Emotional Needs

25:32 Sign 9: For You, Emotional Dependence Equals Weakness

26:25 Sign 10: You Want A Relationship, But Don’t Find A Partner Who Fits Your High Standards

29:01 Solutions

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.