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Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about why avoidant partners stonewall,

what you can do if you feel you don’t feel heard and seen for the thousand’s time because they always go cold

And on the flipside, what avoidants can do if they find themselves constantly stonewalling during vulnerable conversions.

► Links and Resources:

Avoidant Attachment Style Video:

https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18

Emotional Dysregulation Video:

https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA

How to Resolve Relationship Conflict Like a Secure Person: https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8

Stonewalling Examples Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/

The 4 Horsemen by Dr. John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

Stonewalling, Grey Rocking & Narcissism: https://sherrygaba.com/navigating-relationships-with-narcissists-stonewalling-vs-gray-rocking/

Adult survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ⁠⁠

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:47 What Is Stonewalling?

03:21 Why Stonewalling Hurts Our Relationship

05:06 Stonewalling Vs. Grey Rocking

07:48 Stonewalling And Avoidant Attachment

09:28 The Stonewalling Cycle

13:55 Stonewalling And The Nervous System

16:30 The Hidden Psychology Behind Stonewalling

18:48 How To Deal With Stonewalling Like A Secure Person

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.