In this season finale episode, Seth and Pete explore the concept of emotional capital in divorce with experienced matrimonial and family law attorney Al Feigenbaum. They dive into how preserving emotional well-being during and after a divorce is crucial for effective co-parenting and moving forward in life.
The conversation touches on the importance of attorneys being attuned to their clients' mental health, the impact of the pandemic on divorcing couples, and how lawyers' own emotional capital can be affected by their work. Al shares insights on managing difficult conversations with clients and the pitfalls of getting overly emotionally invested as a divorce attorney.
Questions we answer in this episode:
• What is emotional capital in the context of divorce?
• How can your emotional state impact divorce outcomes?
• What role should a divorce attorney play in addressing a client's mental health?
Key Takeaways:
• Preserving emotional capital is crucial for effective co-parenting post-divorce
• Attorneys need to be mindful of how their own communication can escalate emotions
• It's important for attorneys to set boundaries and manage difficult client conversations
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating a divorce who wants to understand the importance of emotional well-being in the process. Seth, Pete, and Al offer valuable perspectives on how to approach divorce in a way that prioritizes mental health and sets you up for a positive post-divorce future.
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• (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
• (02:16) - What is Emotional Capital?
• (07:04) - Mental Health
• (18:34) - Financial Impact of Emotional Disregulation
• (26:18) - Nonlinear Love
• (31:36) - Learn More
• (33:00) - Listener Questions
• (33:16) - How does Greyson's Law impact those who have already gone through the courts but evidence was not submitted?
• (34:56) - Where does the 50/50 split line get drawn?
• (37:11) - Can I be forced to take a breathalyzer?
• (38:00) - Are there tax implications associated with our divorce filing date?