Now that we’ve keyed into the ways we can sabotage ourselves by taking things personally, this episode focuses on practical methods (with specific examples) of interrupting old default settings so that we can shift our consciousness away from taking things personally and towards being more empathetic in relationships.

Newer listeners are encouraged to also drop into our first podcast, START RIGHT HERE. A bunch of compelling interviews and other goodies that tie into the Emotional Sobriety project.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/start-right-here-conversations-about-what-matters-most/id1525039302

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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Allen returns this week to deepen discussion of not taking things personally. Suffering what isn’t, appreciating what is. Listening to the “second voice.” Bringing Don Miguel Ruiz’s “Four Agreements” into an Emotional Sobriety context. Next episode, we will highlight ways of translating this essential recovery concept into practice.

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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Thom and Patrick process thoughts and feelings about the 20th Anniversary of the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, specifically remembering that disasters like 9/11 bring out the very best of people.

Some of Thom's publications referred to:

Therapy for Politics (FREE pdf download) https://3f48999b-b083-4400-97b5-96c49b21a0e7.filesusr.com/ugd/e71801_3441394cc7a6472ca88c8e2e46a157d8.pdf

Embracing Fear: How to Change What Scares Us into Our Greatest Gift https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Simple Truth: Ideas & Experiences for Humans from Less-Than-Perfect Families. https://3f48999b-b083-4400-97b5-96c49b21a0e7.filesusr.com/ugd/e71801_85cf03584ede448198af4a84c5dfac7c.pdf

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Beginning discussion of Chapter 6 of Dr. Berger's Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. Focus is on what it means and how we are impacted when we take things other people say to us personally, and how, with "large doses of curiosity," we can change our ways of thinking so that we increase/improve our self-awareness -- resulting in the freedom a daily practice of emotional sobriety can deliver.

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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Continuing our exploration of Chapter 5 in Dr. Berger's new book. Today we focus on what it means to have and to maintain an emotional “center of gravity.”

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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It's vital to acknowledge with self-compassion that whatever emotional dependencies we are experiencing, we come by those honestly. When we can become aware of how our innate drive toward wholeness has actually been a part of developing our coping mechanisms, we are free to discover new (and much improved) possibilities. Discussion of Chapter 5 will continue in the next episode.

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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Today we move to chapter four of Allen's new book, emphasizing the healing power of awareness and the challenges of becoming aware of new possibilities for ourselves. We discover some possibilities we never knew about and others that we may have considered impossible to achieve. Key to walking the path of emotional sobriety is an understanding that we must be able to translate concepts that resonate with us into daily practice.

Shais Taub's book God of Our Understanding: Jewish Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction (referenced in the episode): https://www.amazon.com/God-Our-Understanding-Spirituality-Addiction/dp/1602801533  

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

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This week we dive into the third chapter of Allen’s book, with an emphasis on willingness to move toward discomfort in our journey towards demolishing our false self to uncover our true self. 

Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Love & Betrayal by John Amodeo, PhD:

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Betrayal-Broken-Intimate-Relationships/dp/0345378563/ref=sr_1_6?crid=3UY2LWR1GZC4K&dchild=1&keywords=john+amodeo&qid=1627235512&sprefix=john+amod%2Cdigital-text%2C181&sr=8-6

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