Emotionally Uncomfortable

041: Self Care As A Spiritual Practice

Today's podcast is an interview by Suzi Lula. We met a few weeks ago at Dr.Shefali's EVOLVE conference and instantly connected.

Today Suzi and I talk about why self care is the most UNSELFISH this you can do for your child.

Suzi Lula is a much-sought-after Spiritual Teacher, Counselor and an award winning pianist. She loves life and the transformation of the human Spirit. Believing that we are each the artists of our lives, she empowers individuals, mothers, couples and groups around the world to make their lives a Masterpiece! She speaks on topics such as Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Leadership, Self Love, Self Care, Motherhood as an Evolutionary Path, Emotional Evolution and Evolution through LOVE.

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A big piece of connection comes from something bigger than ourselves. This is more about being rather than doing. So how do we teach this to our children?

This questions inspired a conversation with Neale Donald Walsh when I met him a few weeks ago.

In today's episode I am interviewing his Co- Authors on this topic...

* What is God?

* How do we teach our children these concepts while still giving them full control over their beliefs?

* What can we do as parents do protect our children from creating limiting beliefs about who they are, their purpose etc...?

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039: Listen and follow through with what your soul craves. POINT 1: Pay attention to what your body is craving (not what your monkey mind wants). There is a difference and if you practice listening to your body and soul you will know the difference. POINT 2: Be aware of your shadow side. The shadow side is the part of you that wants to run and hide. This is fear taking over. It serves a purpose but not when you want to grow and evolve. Often times when my body does this I want to sleep (when I’m not overly tired, I eat crap food or I start yelling because I didn’t meet my own needs. POINT 3: The art of being in control is DOING what needs to get done. Yep. It’s that simple. This looks me years to figure out. There is no magic or quick fix. If you want things to change you have to do what is needed to feel in control of your life, your relationships and your emotions. ACTION: What do you need to do today to feel in control? Get some public accountability. Join the private FB and share. Join the private Facebook group HERE. Have questions or recommendation for that show, email [email protected]

That's all they want. Is you. Not the gifts. Not the xbox. If they could choose it would be YOU. ALL YOU!

This podcast was inspired by an Ikea commercial. Watch here.

I think it's interesting that we often crave more presence in our lives and our children craves our presence and yet we resist it. Why is that?

ACTION. Journal. What are you craving? What do you need to give yourself permission for? Join the conversation in the private Facebook group. Click here to join. Have a personal questions? Email me [email protected] www.heatherchauvin.com

POINT 1: Every trigger is a lesson.

I know, it’s annoying but our inner work is never done. EVER! Our children constantly how up and push us to become the best versions of ourselves. POINT 2: You don’t need to be with your child to create connection. There was a father at the Conscious Parenting event who shared a personal story with me about how he is currently unable to see his children. I shared a few easy ways to stay connected in the moment - and create connect for the future as well. POINT 3: You will piss people off when you decide to parent differently. We can’t become people pleasers when we do, we get angry and annoyed. This is currently my greatest lesson. You will have fan and you will have haters. Resources: Dr.Shefali’s website Private FB community.

POINT 1: You are in control of your energy.

Yep, you. No one else. Boundaries mama. It's a process but everyday is a new learning opportunity. How can you grow? What actions can you take to feel closer to how you want to feel?

POINT 2: If you don't control your energy, your energy will control you. Period.

Just like anything, it's all a practice. It takes time. We need to integrate it as a lifestyle, not a quick fix.

POINT 3: What you resist will persist and grow bigger.

It took me 3 days of pity party to experience enough contrast to know I needed to get my shit together. If you don't pay attention to the aches - they WILL get better.

ACTION STEP:

What do you need to do right now, today to get you one step closer to your essence?

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035: Why I stopped asking for my husband’s advice.

POINT ONE: Watch out for their limiting beliefs. When we ask others ‘what they think’ often times they are coming from a judgemental point of view. Their own lens of beliefs. Take ALL advice and guidance and ask yourself “does this work for me?” POINT TWO: Don’t ask for advice if you’re really seeking permission. This is a sneaky one and it gets us every time. When you ask for advice making sure you’re asking the right person and not something who is emotionally involved in the problem. POINT THREE: It’s not up to him, it’s up to you. Start taking personal responsibility for what you want not what someone else wants. If you’re always living in someone else’s life - you will never feel in alignment in yours. RESOURCES: Activate The Life Your Soul Craves Webinar. www.heatherchauvin.com/activate

In a perfect world there would be no stress but that doesn't exist because even if you are not physically doing anything we are still human and affected by other's and the emotional stress we put on ourselves - mostly unconscious.

In today's podcast I discuss...

POINT 1: Importance of silence

Why letting go of what you need to let go could be your saving grace, even if you are disappointing someone else. If you're not in the right state of mind. How do we exact others?

POINT 2: Importance of understanding your yellow zone.

The yellow zone is the place between the green and red zone. I talk about this in my Teach Your Kid To Meditate Program www.momisincontrol.com/tyktm

When you practice mindfulness and begin to understand your emotional and physical cues to stress you will begin to understand what your body does before it approaches the red zone (crisis zone).

POINT 3: Know your story.

Know the stories you tell yourself in your mind.

"If I stop I'm lazy."

"I'm letting other's down."

When you need a break, take it. Just plan on getting back up.

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I'm a giver to a fault. I would give my shoes to someone in need. So when the holiday season comes around I'm always curious how I can be of service to others while still maintaining my sanity.

In this episode I talk about

How my grandmother inspired this podcast.

How the woman at the hair solon gave me a great idea to make a difference.

And the power of community and starting where you're at.

What are you doing this holiday season? How are you giving back?

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Discipline is a very personal choice and something a lot of parents are confused about which approach to take.

My personal choice is to do no harm. This isn't easy when my 'go to' place is anger and rage.

So what can YOU do when it comes to taking a new approach to discipline in your home?

POINT: Understand where your kids are coming from.

How are they feeling in that situation? Was there something else going on that has nothing to do with you? Maybe they are upset and acting out because of a previous situation. What they might need in a hug instead of a lecture.

POINT: Talk to them the same way you would want someone to talk to you.

This is my go to question when I want to yell and scream. Would I respect it if someone else talked to me this way? Ask yourself this next time you want to punch a hole in the wall. You children will thank you.

POINT: Be proactive instead of reactive.

What can you do to avoid these conversations? Are there systems or alternative solutions that can be taken care of so yelling doesn't occur?

Example: Late for school? Get up earlier, make sure everything is ready the night before. Do your morning routine so you are grounded and focused before taking care of the kids.

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