F*CK Trauma Podcast

Ep 41: Why You're Not Being Chosen—And How to Change That


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If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people… if you're stuck in the same relationship patterns… if you constantly feel unseen, unchosen, or not enough—this episode is for you.


Today, I’m joined by self-concept coach Courtney in Savannah for a raw, powerful conversation about the real reason you feel anxious in love. Spoiler: It’s not about them—it’s about your self-concept.


We dive into:
✨ How your childhood wounds shape who you believe you are in love
✨ Why your self-concept creates a loop of rejection, abandonment & chasing
✨ How Courtney transformed her marriage by healing her beliefs about being chosen
✨ What it actually takes to stop outsourcing love and validation
✨ Practical tools you can use today to shift your identity and feel secure in yourself


This conversation is everything I wish I’d known years ago—and I know it’s going to change the way you see your relationships forever.


Because you were never unworthy—you were just taught to believe you were. And it’s time to take your power back.


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