Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

EP 502: I’m So Frustrated with Feeling Fearful with Holly


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In this deeply tender session, Christine works with Holly, who’s navigating the exhausting grip of fear and the inner conflict that arises when she tries to override it. Holly describes the frustration of knowing she’s done the inner work—yet still feeling paralyzed by fear when it comes to speaking up, setting boundaries, or simply sending a message to a friend.

What emerges is a powerful reframe: fear is not the enemy. It’s a messenger from past pain, particularly childhood wounds of abandonment and emotional neglect. Christine guides Holly through a shift from judgment to compassion, from pushing through fear to gently parenting the scared parts of herself with curiosity and care.

This conversation is for anyone who feels “stuck” in their fear despite years of personal growth—and who needs a reminder that softness, not force, is the path forward.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you judging yourself for still feeling fear, even after doing years of self-development work?
  • Do small tasks, like expressing a need or setting a boundary, send you into overanalysis or self-doubt?
  • Were you raised in an environment that didn’t feel safe or affirming—and are you carrying those patterns into adulthood?
  • What might shift if you treated your fear with compassion instead of frustration?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Fear often stems from childhood wounds, not present-day reality.
  • Self-judgment reinforces abandonment. Compassion heals it.
  • We don’t have to “push through” fear to transform—it’s more powerful to honor it, tend to it, and respond with care.
  • Hyper-independence can be a trauma response—not a personality trait.
  • Healing happens through curiosity, compassion, and courage—not pressure and shame.

How to Deepen the Work:

  • Practice speaking to yourself the way a nurturing parent would: “It’s okay to be scared. I’m here.”
  • Try the three-step emotional approach Christine recommends: Compassion → Curiosity → Courage.
  • Journal about where fear still holds you back—and what your younger self might need in those moments.
  • Explore whether you're bypassing your feelings by “pushing through,” and ask what might happen if you softened instead.
  • Identify safe relationships where you can start practicing self-expression and vulnerability in small ways.

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