How do you love without losing yourself? Tonya Lester, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer known for her work with relationships and communication. Her essay “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself” was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• Why so many women have trouble asserting themselves in their relationships

• Why it’s sometimes good to be “difficult" in your relationship

• How perfectionism isn’t about excellence, it’s about anxiety

• How to tell if we should keep pushing back or if it is time to leave a relationship

• Why it’s important to stop saying, “But I shouldn’t have to tell him!”  

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• Book: https://www.amazon.com/Push-Back-Others-Without-Yourself/dp/1608689468

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