Are you hunting for red flags in relationships and dating? My podcast guest, Dr. Isabelle Morley, says we need to stop diagnosing others with psychological disorders. She is a clinical psychologist, EFT-certified couples therapist, and author. She writes a blog for Psychology Today and has been featured in The New Yorker, The Boston Globe, Vox, and more. Dr. Morley also serves on the founding board of the UCAN Foundation and provides couples therapy in the Boston area. We’re talking today about her new book, “They’re Not Gaslighting You”.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• Why we’re obsessed with words like “narcissist” and “gaslighting” in dating
• How our relationships are affected by hunting for red flags and other ways we try to diagnose our partners
• What to say if someone accuses you of having a psychological disorder

Connect with Dr. Isabelle Morley

• IG @drisabellemorley https://www.instagram.com/drisabellemorley/?hl=en 
• Website: drisabellemorley.com
• PDF bundle: Reality Check: Am I Being Gaslit?, Say What You Mean: Translating Therapy Speak into Real Connection, and Label-Free Language: A Guide to Non-Pathologizing Conversations

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Dating after 50 can feel like a whole new world—and not always in the best way. You may have heard (or thought), “All the good ones are taken,” or “Men my age just want younger women.” But here’s the truth: emotionally available, mature men do exist. And attracting them has more to do with your mindset, boundaries, and clarity than luck.

If you’re ready for your last first date—with someone who shows up, communicates clearly, and wants real connection—this is for you.

Join Love Mastery, my exclusive intimate coaching group. Learn more and apply here https://lastfirstdate.com/love-mastery-program-2/

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Pelvic floor issues are common but not normal. Help is available so women can take back their bodies, says board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Sara Reardon in her new book, FLOORED: A Woman’s Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage (pub date June 10, 2025). Dr. Sara has built a robust community online as “The Vagina Whisperer” (664K Instagram followers; 13 Million TikTok Views) teaching women how to prevent as well as overcome pelvic floor issues at every stage of life with simple tips like “squeeze before you sneeze” to more advanced protocols to prepare for childbirth or navigate changes during menopause.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• How Sara became known as “The Vagina Whisperer”
• What is the pelvic floor, and what are the common symptoms of pelvic floor dysfunction?
• What a woman should do if her doctor tells her her pelvic pain or leakage is essentially a normal part of being a woman, aging, pregnant, postpartum, menopause, etc
• Some of the most common pelvic floor problems and what women do to treat them
• Top tips any woman can do right now to take care of her pelvic floor
• Why there’s a stigma around talking about women’s health “down there”
• How pelvic floor problems evolve over time if left untreated
• How women’s partners can help them with their pelvic floor pain
• What a woman can do if she can’t find a pelvic floor therapist near her

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You’re on a first date and everything seems to be going well, until your date says something "funny" that you find hurtful. What do you do? Do you say something? Do you stay quiet? Is this a dealbreaker? I’m sharing a breakdown of humor in dating and relationships, and what to do when someone’s joke hurts or offends you.

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What are the secrets to emotional and physical intimacy? Dr. Berman has the answers in her newest book, Sex Magic. She’s a columnist for USA Today and a New York Times bestselling author who has written ten books. She currently hosts the popular love and sex advice podcast, The Language of Love. In addition to her regular appearances in daytime and news media, Dr. Berman was also the sex, love, and relationship expert on The Oprah Winfrey Show and has starred in four television series, including two on the OWN Network and one on Showtime.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• How to connect to your energetic body to master the pleasure available to you
• How to confidently create deeper arousal and pleasure in yourself and your partner
• How to build more sexual energy and desire within and between you and another
• How to apply strategies for improving emotional and physical intimacy
• How to remove the blocks of trauma and inhibition standing in the way of maximum pleasure
• How to move pleasurable sensations throughout your body to achieve mind-blowing orgasms
• How to use ancient techniques for sexual healing and manifesting your dreams

Dr. Laura’s Social media and website links

• Website https://drlauraberman.com/ 
• Wiki https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laura_Berman 
• IG https://www.instagram.com/drlauraberman/?hl=en 
• X https://x.com/drlauraberman?lang=en 
• FB https://www.facebook.com/DrLauraBermanOfficial/ 
• Free gift: Those who buy Sex Magic get to go to a live sex magic initiation virtual event July 8th with Dr. Berman, a free 8 part quantum sex course, a sex magic journal, and you’ll be entered into a raffle for a free 1:1 session with her. Preorder the book here https://drlauraberman.com/sexmagic/ 

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Falling in love quickly can feel exciting, like you’ve finally found your match. And then, when you become physically intimate, your brain begins to release feel-good chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. You become infatuated and begin to obsess over this new person in your life. Combine that with your romantic ideas about love, and you’re head over heels in love. But are you really in love? If you tend to fall in love quickly, it’s probably affecting your ability to enter into healthy relationships. Here are five ways to slow down the dating process so you can balance your heart and head and find a healthy relationship.

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How can couples navigate power dynamics and control in relationships? Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts.

In this episode:

• How to recognize the shift in power dynamics and control in your relationship
• How people in non-traditional relationships can design a healthy relationship
• How to approach sexual incompatibility in a relationship
• What to do if you tend to prioritize your partner’s needs over your own to create a more balanced relationship
• How can you overcome sexual insecurities

Connect with Bonnie

Website - https://bonniecomfort.com/ 

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bonniecomfortauthor   

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61570054590355  

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bonnie-comfort-864b10b/ 

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“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.  In our response lies our growth and our freedom” – Viktor Frankl

This is one of my favorite quotes, because it describes the importance of pausing when something triggers us. We don’t react – we respond. In our Western hustle culture, pausing is not encouraged, but it’s one of the most important things we can do to help us have better lives. How can we practice the power of the pause in dating and relationships?

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Is modern dating broken? My podcast guest, Emma Smith, is a licensed therapist who specializes in trauma, sex therapy, and LGBTQ+ healthcare. A former military consultant, she has been an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and sexual assault survivors. She writes The Intimate Philosopher on Substack, and in her free time loves reading, running, crafting, and all things sparkly.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• The biggest myths about attraction and intimacy
• The outdated dating advice people should ignore and what to focus on instead
• How the unspoken “rules” impact dating and how people can break free from them
• How people can cultivate more meaningful and fulfilling connections without feeling overwhelmed
• A practical mindset shift or piece of advice to rethink our approach to love and intimacy

Connect With Emma

• IG: https://www.instagram.com/emmasmithphd  
• FB: https://www.facebook.com/JerseyEJ 
• LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmasmithphd/ 
• Substack: https://emmasmithphd.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-intimate-philosopher 

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Being more present on dates will help you enjoy dating much more. It will help with first date anxiety. It will help you focus less on trying to predict whether or not you might have a future with this person, because how could you know that on a first date? In short, being present when you date helps you relax and enjoy every date. Here are five ways to be more present on dates!

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