In today’s episode, Colleen introduces a transformative exercise to uncover the deeply rooted beliefs that might be holding you back from achieving your goals around alcohol. Learn how to identify these limiting thoughts, challenge their validity, and replace them with empowering beliefs that align with the identity you want to build. This episode is a must-listen for high-achieving women who are ready to break free from shame-based narratives and create lasting, identity-based change.

Key Takeaways:

• Beliefs Are Thoughts You No Longer Question:

  • Many limiting beliefs feel true simply because they are habitual thoughts you’ve practiced over time.
  • These beliefs often stem from subconscious narratives about who you think you are.

• Identify and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs:

  • Think of someone you admire for their relationship with alcohol and ask yourself: What do you believe about them that makes them capable?
  • Use this reflection to identify the gap between their identity and your current beliefs about yourself.
  • Instead of asking “Why am I like this?”—which reinforces the limiting belief—shift to asking, “In what context is this belief not true about me?”

• Rewriting the Narrative:

  • Find a context where the limiting belief doesn’t apply, or borrow empowering beliefs from your role model.
  • Create a replacement belief that feels true for you and practice thinking it consistently.
  • Remember: Your feelings are a direct result of your thoughts. By changing your thoughts, you change how you feel and behave.

Actionable Steps:

1. Reflect on a Role Model:
   • Identify someone whose relationship with alcohol you admire. Write down the beliefs you think they hold about themselves.
2. Uncover Your Story:
   • List the limiting beliefs you have about yourself that might be creating a gap. Identify one belief that feels the most true and painful.
3. Challenge and Replace:
   • Find an instance where this belief doesn’t hold true or borrow a belief from your role model. Create a new belief that feels authentic and achievable.
   • Practice replacing the limiting belief with this new thought every time it arises.
4. Monitor Your Progress:
   • Track moments when you successfully challenge old beliefs and celebrate small wins. This builds motivation and reinforces the new identity you’re cultivating.

Homework: Identify one limiting belief about yourself related to alcohol and replace it with a new, empowering thought. Write it down, and each time the old belief surfaces, consciously replace it with the new one. Over time, watch as your mindset and behavior begin to shift.

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