In today’s episode, Colleen reveals a powerful strategy for creating lasting change by shifting your identity instead of relying on willpower or discipline. Discover how embracing the mindset of “I’m the type of person who…” can naturally align your behaviors with your goals, without the exhausting cycle of self-criticism or perfectionism. Colleen shares practical steps to practice being the version of yourself you aspire to become, one small, mindful step at a time.

Key Takeaways:

• Willpower vs. Identity-Based Change:

  • Relying on willpower to change behaviors is unsustainable and creates a yo-yo cycle of self-defeat.
  • Instead, focus on becoming the type of person for whom the desired behavior feels natural and effortless.

• Upgrade Your Identity:

  • Change begins with deciding who you want to be. Use the phrase “I’m the type of person who…” to define and practice embodying your desired identity.
  • Motivation is fueled by progress. As you practice small changes aligned with your new identity, you build evidence that reinforces your belief in yourself.

• Start Small and Celebrate Progress:

  • You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Move the needle in small, manageable ways.
  • Notice and acknowledge every win, no matter how small, to keep your momentum and strengthen your commitment to change.

• Anchor Your Motivation in Who You Are:

  • Align your choices with the type of person you aspire to be, rather than focusing on the behavior you’re trying to eliminate.
  • For example, Colleen’s motivation to drink less isn’t about avoiding alcohol but about staying true to her identity as a confident, clear, and connected person.

Actionable Steps:

1. Adopt the Phrase:

   • Fill in the blank: “I’m the type of person who…”
   • Choose a statement that reflects the identity you want to build, such as “I’m the type of person who prioritizes my well-being” or “I’m the type of person who makes time for rest and reflection.”

2. Practice Being Her:

   • Take small, consistent actions that align with your desired identity.
   • For example, if you’re the type of person who values mornings, set a goal to enjoy a mindful morning ritual, like watering your plants or journaling.

3. Celebrate Your Wins:

   • Notice and congratulate yourself on the progress you make.
   • When you take an action that aligns with your new identity, pause to acknowledge it: “I’m proud of myself for showing up as the person I want to be.”

4. Make It Fun and Public:

   • Share your identity-based goals with others. Casually weave “I’m the type of person who…” into conversations as a playful way to reinforce your new mindset.

Homework: Write down one identity-based goal using the phrase “I’m the type of person who…” Post it somewhere visible and reflect on it daily. Track small wins that align with this identity and notice how your motivation and habits shift over time.

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