In this episode, Colleen reflects on a quote that’s been echoing in her mind for weeks: “Yes, I’m full of myself. Who else am I supposed to be full of?” — a line from none other than Matthew McConaughey. It’s not just cheeky—it’s powerful. Because for so many women, being “full of yourself” has been cast as a flaw, a risk, or something to avoid.

Colleen shares how a recent, painful experience of being removed from a coaching community triggered a cascade of old programming: shrink yourself, smooth it over, assume you were too much. But instead of collapsing into shame or over-apologizing, she used the moment as an invitation to reclaim her voice and re-anchor in her purpose.

This episode is for the woman who’s been playing small to keep others comfortable… the woman who second-guesses herself when she starts to shine… the woman who's done everything "right" and still feels like she’s holding back.

 

  Key Takeaways:

 

1. There’s Nothing Wrong with Being Full of Yourself

• Being full of yourself doesn’t mean you’re selfish. It means you're rooted in your own worth.

• We’ve been taught to downplay our confidence so we don’t ruffle feathers—but what if your fullness is exactly what’s needed?

2. Managing Other People’s Emotions Isn’t Your Job

• It’s not your job to make everyone feel okay. Your job is to stay connected to your integrity and your purpose.

• Worrying about how others perceive you steals energy that could be spent building the life you’re here to live.

3. Check Your Response Before You Shrink

• When you feel triggered or called out, ask: Am I abandoning myself right now to make someone else more comfortable?

• Self-awareness lets you discern between meaningful feedback and misplaced guilt.

4. True Community Is Built on Emotional Responsibility

• Real belonging doesn’t require shrinking. It requires honesty, self-trust, and mutual respect.

• You can be a safe space for others without taking on their emotional work—and you deserve relationships where that goes both ways.

 

  Actionable Steps:

 

✨ Practice being “full of yourself” today. What would it look like to take up a little more space in your own life? To trust your words, your instincts, your bigness?

📝 Notice where you’re spending your energy. Are you over-investing in managing how others feel about you… or are you investing in your purpose?

❤️ Be on your own team. If you make a mistake, be honest and kind with yourself. Don’t abandon your heart just to keep your “good girl” image intact.

🧭 Anchor to your intention. Ask yourself: Am I speaking, acting, and showing up in alignment with who I’m becoming?

 

  Homework:

Write this down somewhere you’ll see it often:

“Yes, I’m full of myself. Who else am I supposed to be full of?”

Say it out loud. Play with what it means to you. And notice what comes up—not to judge yourself, but to get curious. The more you allow yourself to live in your fullness, the more powerful (and peaceful) your life becomes.

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Transcript:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/12lE8GIoZE3tDkUIOR-v85MpHSAOQAP7j?usp=sharing