In today’s episode, you’ll explore one of the most common patterns that keeps high-achieving women stuck: worrying about what other people might think. Colleen breaks down how the fear of being misunderstood, judged, or perceived a certain way can quietly derail your growth, your boundaries, and your goals. You’ll learn why managing other people’s emotions never works—and what to do instead when your nervous system wants to retreat.

Key Takeaways

Fear of what others think is a distraction from your purpose When you're focused on being perceived the "right" way, you're no longer rooted in your own truth. This is emotional disconnection in disguise.

Trying to manage someone else's emotions doesn’t serve either of you When you avoid hard conversations or withhold your real message to protect someone else's feelings, you rob them of the opportunity to grow—and yourself of the opportunity to lead.

Projection keeps you stuck in self-doubt What you think others might be thinking is often just a reflection of your own unhealed beliefs. These projections block clarity and reinforce old stories that no longer serve you.

 

Homework

Create the time for Self-Reflection. Once you're there, ask yourself: Where are you hesitating to lead or speak honestly because you’re afraid of how it will be received?

What would shift if you stopped managing their response—and trusted your own? Listen for your response and acknowledge that awareness.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. If you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober (side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking),You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of how to get the skills you need to transform your life.

 

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