It's Not About the Alcohol

EP257 Minisode: Adjusting Expectations For The Holidays (Part 2)


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In this follow-up episode, Colleen shares a personal holiday stumble—an experience she originally recorded in late 2024, but one that still rings true as we look ahead to the upcoming season. She names it a "relapse," not because of how much she drank but because of the disconnect between what she wanted and what actually happened.

Instead of hiding it, she walks through the three-question framework from Part One, showing in real time how to turn what looks like failure into data, compassion, and next steps. Through honest reflection, she reframes her week of drinking with family as a learning lab: noticing where it could have been worse, expanding the timeline to see real improvement, and uncovering the lesson that unrealistic expectations set her up to struggle.

What emerges is a radically different take on relapse—not as proof you're broken, but as proof you're still learning. This isn't just a confession—it's a model of how to meet yourself in the mess, stay curious, and come back stronger.

🔑 Key Takeaways

  • Comparing a holiday week to your "best week" skews progress—zoom out to see real improvement.

  • Every story you tell yourself is "bullshit"—so choose the version that moves you forward.

  • Setting unrealistic expectations (like piling an elimination diet on top of holiday stress) undermines success.

  • Use the three-question framework every time:

    1. How could this have been worse / where did I improve?

    2. What did I learn?

    3. What would I like to do differently next time?

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It's Not About the AlcoholBy Colleen Freeland

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