In this episode, Colleen breaks down a moment almost every woman in this work has experienced: when your body makes a decision before your conscious mind even knows what happened. A glass of wine ordered on autopilot. No craving. No plan. Just habit taking the wheel.

Using a real travel story, she explains why this isn't a moral failure, a hidden self-saboteur, or proof you "can't be trusted." It's a nervous system under pressure doing exactly what it was trained to do. When overwhelm rises and capacity drops, habits step in to conserve energy — fast.

She'll walk you through how dopamine wires behavior, why old reward pathways stay available even after years of awareness, and how hindsight is where real learning happens. Instead of shame, she shows you how to process these moments with curiosity, translate impulsive behavior into emotional data, and use it as a signal for what you actually need: relief, space, safety, freedom.

This episode reframes "slips" as feedback — not failure — and teaches you how to respond in a way that builds trust with yourself instead of breaking it.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Why habits take over when you're overwhelmed — even without conscious desire • How dopamine pins powerful emotional memories and reactivates them under stress • Why impulse doesn't mean weakness — it means capacity was exceeded • The difference between wanting a drink and wanting relief • How to process behavior after the fact so your nervous system can actually learn • Why shame reinforces old patterns — and curiosity dissolves them • How emotional sobriety turns hindsight into forward momentum

This is a reminder that growth doesn't happen by avoiding mistakes — it happens by knowing how to metabolize them.

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