Emotional sobriety requires prioritizing self care. You don’t need permission or approval to set boundaries with your body. 

 

But that feels complicated when applied to sex. Women have been conditioned to “service” our partners on a regular basis, whether we feel like it or not. If you don’t keep your man happy, someone else might. 

 

Contrary to patriarchal standards perpetuated by BOTH men and women, your sexual desires are just as valid as your partner’s. Even when your only desire is to be left alone.  

 

It’s normal for libido to flatline in early sobriety. You’re in a legit dopamine deficit. Your nervous system is dysregulated and you’re emotionally exhausted. It’s called recovery for a reason.

 

But having obligatory sex – “getting it over with” so you can “check the box”-- further disconnects you from your body. And infuses your relationship with resentment and contempt. 

 

You know what’s sexy? A woman who isn’t ashamed of herself or her body. A woman who can tolerate the messiness of being human–in herself and her partner.

 

It’s okay. You’re okay. This isn’t permanent. Committing to radical honesty and taking care of your physical needs is HOW you awaken the Goddess within.

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