If you’ve been in a narcissistic, emotionally abusive, or coercively controlling relationship, you may think you’re alone in your confusion and trauma. After working with thousands of women, however, I can assure you that abusers are all operating out of the same playbook. The gaslighting, the love bombing, the silent treatment? The patterns are actually completely predictable. It’s called the Abuser’s Playbook. And if there’s a playbook for them, there’s a playbook for you, too.

In this solo episode, I walk you through ten of the most common tactics abusers use and more importantly, how to counter each one. This isn’t about changing them. This is about keeping yourself safe, reclaiming your sanity, and taking your power back.

The 10 common tactics narcissistic abusers use (and what you’ll hear about in this episode):

1. Love bombing and future faking that keeps you hooked and how to track the cycle

2. Gaslighting that erodes your sense of reality and how to ground yourself in the truth

3. Projection that flips the blame onto you and how to recognize what’s actually theirs

4. Triangulation that isolates you and how to stay rooted in your own perspective

5. Hoovering that pulls you back in and how to hold your boundary when it feels impossible

6. Smear campaigns that twist your story and how to stay steady when your reputation is under attack

7. Threats and intimidation that instill fear and how to protect yourself and plan ahead

8. Stonewalling and silent treatment that punish you and how to stop chasing their approval

9. Baiting and rage that push you to the edge and how to respond without losing yourself

10. Financial abuse that traps you and how to begin reclaiming control

➡ Download The Survivor’s Playbook at KateAnthony.com/playbook

Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveHow He’ll Likely React Bingo card Kate on Instagram @kateanthony_divorcecoachKate on FacebookThe D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage

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Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-333-if-theres-a-playbook-for-them-theres-a-playbook-for-you/