Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Episode 725: How to stop comparing your personal development journey to others


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This solo episode from the archives comes from something one of my clients told me about, and it was the same thing I’ve heard from many women in this community. 

My client went to a live event-- a personal development sort of conference/retreat. She went alone, and this particular client is, like many people, massively uncomfortable with vulnerability, but really wanted to change and grow, so she did the vulnerable thing by going alone to this event. 

Everyone around her seemed to be having these massive breakthroughs, and she just... wasn't. I've been there and probably so have you. It's one of the most common and least-talked-about frustrations in personal growth.

Today I'm getting into “comparisonitis”, specifically around your personal development journey, and why what you see other people experiencing has very little to do with what's actually available to you.

What you'll take away from this episode:

  • Comparing is normal and human and the goal isn't to stop, it's to notice it and get curious instead of staying stuck there
  • Someone else's aha moment is happening through their lens, not yours. The same lesson can land as a 10 for them and a 2 for you, and that doesn't mean you're behind
  • Sometimes you're just not ready and no amount of seminars will force a transformation before its time
  • Most growth isn't seismic, it's small shifts, new tools, and slow perspective changes adding up over time
  • There are seasons in this work. Transformation, healing, action, and rest. You don't have to be in overdrive all the time
  • Stop measuring your journey against someone else's highlight reel and come back to what's actually in front of you. Listen to the episode as I talk more about what to do if you find yourself comparing your personal development journey to someone else’s. 

    Resources from this episode:
    Work with me 1:1 with Devotion, or open sessions 

    Book recommendations:
    I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!

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