Evolutionary Men

In this episode I explore two fundamental needs that every man craves: purpose and belonging, and how joining a men's group can fulfill these essential needs. I discuss how purpose gives men a sense that their presence matters and impacts the world positively, while belonging provides the deep connection and sense of community that many men are missing in modern life. I explain how participating in a men's group offers both a tangible purpose through showing up for other men, and creates genuine belonging through sustained, intimate connections with fellow group members over time.

Head over to mens.group if you want to experience more purpose and belonging!a

In this episode, Dr. Luke Adler and I discuss the concept of anti-fragility as it relates to men's shadow work and personal development. We explore how anti-fragility goes beyond mere resilience, and is a state where challenges and stressors actually strengthen and energize rather than deplete. We highlight how the Heart of Shadow program can be an engine for anti-fragility for men by transmuting difficult emotions and experiences into vitality and connection. With this capacity, suddenly life's challenges become opportunities for growth and vitality rather than sources of breakdown.

In this episode, I explore the fundamental weakness of macho men and the "tough guy" culture that promotes isolation and emotional suppression. I explain how every man will eventually face physical challenges or illness that they can't simply "push through," revealing the critical importance of having a strong support system. Learn why posturing is still fear based and what you can do instead.

Learn more and find a men's group at evolutionary.men

In this episode, I share a powerful practice of choosing an annual "lens" - a perspective through which to view and experience your life throughout the year. I explain how this differs from traditional goal-setting, as a lens simply offers a way to reframe experiences rather than something you can succeed or fail at, using examples from my own journey. I describe how this practice has transformed both major life decisions and everyday moments, helping me navigate challenges, make bold choices, and experience life in fresh ways. I conclude by inviting listeners to try this practice themselves, either individually or through my guided workshop, emphasizing how a carefully chosen lens can bring novelty, energy and new possibilities to any situation.

Join the 2025 Quarterly Workshop series https://evolutionary.men/lens/

In this episode I dive deep into the three major energy drains affecting men today and share how to reclaim your vitality. Drawing from both personal experience and years of coaching, I explore how neglecting body nourishment, suppressing emotions, and mental rumination are secretly depleting your energy reserves. I break down why proper sleep, nutrition, and recovery are non-negotiable foundations, explain how stored emotions create physical tension that exhausts us, and reveal why constant mental chatter is more draining than you think. Whether you're feeling burnt out or simply want to optimize your energy, this episode provides the roadmap to get your power back.

visit heartofshadow.com to reclaim your lifeforce!

In this episode I explore the concept of tonic masculinity - a positive, generative force that brings vitality and growth to our world. Unlike its pathological counterparts, tonic masculinity represents the unique texture of masculine love that's deeply caring, attuned, and focused on creating positive change. I delve into how this manifestation of masculinity calls forth the best in everyone, creates containers for growth, and serves as a creative force rather than a destructive one. This form of masculinity that doesn't rely on domination or control is desperately needed in our culture, as it empowers others and creates structures that support collective flourishing and safety.

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Luke Adler to expose the hidden price of success that's crushing high-achieving men. We reveal why driven professionals can't feel their own exhaustion until it's too late, and share the breakthrough solution we've discovered through our work with countless men. If you're winning at life but feeling empty inside, this conversation could be the wake-up call you've been ignoring. Learn why slowing down might be the most powerful move you'll ever make.

Learn about the Heart of Shadow program.

In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering healthy relationships and ensuring that we connect with the right people in our lives.

• The characteristics of neediness and how it can push people away.
• The importance of expressing our needs directly and taking ownership of them.
• How neediness often stems from a sense of urgency and a lack of clarity.
• The empowering nature of owning our needs and the vulnerability it entails.
• Practical strategies for cultivating a supportive network to help meet our needs.

Tune in and learn how to transform your approach to needs and neediness for a more fulfilling life!

Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Violet and I reveal our sexual journey, sharing candid tips on maintaining erotic energy and emotional connection. Learn why safety, vulnerability, and shared responsibility are the keys to unlocking unparalleled pleasure and deepening your bond. Whether you're struggling with sexual challenges or looking to elevate your passion, this episode can revolutionize your approach to intimacy and reignite the spark in your relationship.

Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode is your roadmap to unprecedented sexual connection.

• Join our LIVE cohort of our Evolutionary Couples program at https://evolutionarycouples.us
• Short on time? You can also experience 12 Epic Dates at your own pace and reignite the fire of your relationship 

In this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and lessons from them. From trust issues and emotional disregulation to financial stress and fertility struggles, we explore how rupture and repair are essential for growth in any partnership. We also introduce our new programs, Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates, designed to help couples build stronger, more resilient relationships through skill-building, emotional connection, and polarity. Tune in for an honest conversation about the challenges of love, and how to navigate them with grace, tools, and support.

Find out more about Evolutionary Couples which starts October 19th and has Early Bird until October 7th, and sign up for 12 Epic Dates anytime at https://evolutionarycouples.us