Exactly. With Florence Given

This week, for our final SEX episode, Floss sits down with Alix Fox to answer your questions about everything from reaching the big O to saying a big no! Alix is a sex writer, educator, journalist, podcaster and queen of puns as well as the Script Consultant on Netflix's Sex Education, the Host of acclaimed Audible series KINK!, the co-host of  BBC Radio 1's Unexpected Fluids AND the winner of Best Sexual Health Ambassador 2020. Alix is incredibly prepared and has some excellent advice on navigating sex with disabilities, first queer sexual experiences, hook-up culture, emotional bonding, consent and lots more. Get ready for the hot-and-flustereds because nothing is hornier than happy, healthy sex!

You’ve been sending in your texts and voice notes, and calling in, via our dedicated podcast  Whatsapp hotline number +44 7890 302665 and today Floss and Alix will answer as many of them as they can. Some of the amazing resources Alix recommended can be found below:

LELO for sex toys

Ferly the app- for masturbation

My Body Back Project- for sexual health

Hannah Witton- for sex and disability

Andrew Gurza- Disability After Dark

Scarleteen- for a sex menu

Find Alix Fox on Twitter or Instagram @AlixFox

Find Floss on instagram and Tik Tok @florencegiven

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Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e4.txt 

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Today we're going to be talking about healing from sexual trauma, with the incredibly wise Dr. Thema Bryant. We know that the rates of women and non binary people who've experienced sexual violence are terrifyingly high and post MeToo movement, we have an increased awareness of the problem, but today we’re focusing on finding joy, finding safety in community, and finding yourself after trauma.

Although we will be talking about the subject generally, we won't be going into details of specific incidents or types of assault. And with that said, if the subject is too raw, then please do have a listen to one of the other episodes of Exactly.

Dr. Thema is incredible. She is a minister, a psychologist, a professor, a sacred artist and host of the podcast Homecoming. Her latest book: Homecoming- Overcome Fear and Trauma to Retain Your Whole Authentic Self publishes this March and we can’t wait to read it.

Before you listen today we want to take a minute to say that if you’ve experienced trauma, whatever happened to you was not your fault. We hope this episode is as comforting as it is informative. Be kind to yourselves.

Find Dr. Thema on Twitter or Instagram @dr.thema

Find Floss on instagram and Tik Tok @florencegiven

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e3.txt 

This is a Somethin’ Else production. 

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In the second episode of our sex mini-series Floss chats to Megan Barton-Hanson, model and former resident of the Love Island villa. Since her saucy season, Megan has proudly lived her life as her authentic self. She has spoken out against slut-shaming with dignity, faced critics of her cosmetic surgery with her head held high and wore Floss’ “Stop Valuing Women Based On Their Sexual History” t-shirt on day time TV.

Megan is a bisexual icon and today she and Floss discuss the misogyny women face when they are sexual in the public eye, the distinct differences between dating men and women and the erasure that accompanies bi-sexuality. They also dive deep into the nuances of “straight-passing”, discuss why it’s pointless trying to please everyone, and answer your baby queer questions! So kick back in your docs, go post a thirst trap on instagram - because it’s your body and the haters can keep their shit in their shit bubble over there.

Find Megan on instagram @meganbartonhanson_

Find Floss on instagram and Tik Tok @florencegiven

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e2.txt

This is a Somethin’ Else production.

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In this, the first episode, Floss meets Dominatrix, empowerment coach and sex therapist in training Miss Erica Storm for a scintillating exploration of sexual confidence. Miss Erica Storm has dedicated her life not only to liberating herself sexually but to helping other women step into their sexual power. She is a one woman army, liberating us all from the shame and unworthiness that gets in our way, preventing us from experiencing confidence and fulfilment in the bedroom, and beyond. 

Miss Erica Storm speaks about her personal journey from struggling with identity, substances and bullying, to becoming the fierce and fearless woman she is today. They talk about connecting with your pussy, something Miss Erica Storm is so passionate about- she even wrote a love letter to hers! They also discuss why pleasure is your divine birth right but it’s up to you to claim it, honey! As well as diving deep on the importance of self-responsibility, helping others as a part of healing, and letting go of other people's expectations in order to be your most authentic self.

Find Miss Erica Storm on instagram @madamstormofficial

Find Floss on instagram and Tik Tok @florencegiven

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e1.txt

This is a Somethin’ Else production. 

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Welcome to Exactly. With Florence Given. Floss is an artist, feminist, and bestselling author of the book ‘Women Don’t Owe You Pretty’. In this podcast she will be diving deep into 5 topics; sex, social media, feminism, relationships and body image and exploring them all from different angles. We’re breaking up the podcast into mini-series and each topic will be explored across 4 episodes.

Throughout the podcast Floss speaks to fascinating guests from authors, cultural commentators, doctors, thought leaders to psychologists, celebrities and comedians. Exploring topics of conversation that are nuanced, enlightening and inspiring whilst having lots of laughs along the way.

And Floss wants to hear from YOU, we’ll be taking your questions for each guest. AND in the fourth episode of each mini-series, we’re opening up the phone lines. Join in on the discussion with Floss and her guest. Drop the podcast a Whatsapp message on +447890 302665 with questions, voice notes and the opportunity to speak with Floss.

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